Have you ever made a bad decision, been influenced negatively or done anything foolish because the sex was good?

Nope. I’ve only been in the opposite situation: staying with good people even though the sex was awful. I’ve never liked sex.

I’ve made bad decisions in regards to sex, but never because of sex. Good sex isn’t that hard to find!

@MacBean: Maybe you just haven’t had any good sex yet?

I have been wrestling with this question in my head recently and it concerns a woman I dated 30 years ago. I hung on, sometimes I think because I was getting laid 4 or 5 times each weekend. But this came along with her being “under the spell” of a former boyfriend and it made me very uncomfortable.
At one point I decided the sex could not override the negatives, especially the old boyfriend, and after a small unimportant disagreement led to a small fight that could not be undone, it was over in about 15 minutes on a Sunday mornng.

SRM

Yes. I have many mental problems including, but not limited to, split-persona, and bi-polar syndrome, and when ever I am in one of my “lows” I think like a completely different person, a person that will do anything to get into the pants of a guy I want, or just simply lust after.
The amount of self-control it takes for me to refrain from doing something… really… really… REALLY… stupid… again… is almost unbearable.

If you guys ever get a strange response from me, or something insulting, it’s my other personality, FYI.

Yes, he was great but was a techno dj who had been living in germany and did a lot of club drugs that made me puke most the time when he shared. He also had pink hair which drove all my guy friends crazy and was a total jerk which drove me to pelt him with an ashtray once. Oh, the sex was freaking great!

yes definately. Really strong sexual attraction kind of blotted out all the other aspects of the relationship which was not good in many other ways. We definately stayed together for the sex for about five years, that is a few years ago now and looking back now, I wonder why we stayed together for so long. But I know the answer is because we were so strongly attracted – hard to imagine because there is nothing there at all now. Weird how it just went.

If you haven’t done something stupid because of sex before you are 25 you probably have a hormone deficiency. In my battle to remain a “good girl” until marriage, I lost the fight and married a guy I knew for 3 weeks when I was 19. I literslly got married in a fever, hotter than a pepper sprout…

Nope. I never liked sex either.

well…I have stayed in relationships longer than I should have because of sex…now, I won’t have sex until really get to know a person first because I always say sex clouds reasonable thinking.

Funny srmorgan that you waithed until Sunday morning, lol.

Yes. I’ve stayed in relationships longer than I should have because the sex was good. I’ve also made dumb decisions because of sex.. like, oh, driving 4 hours away to hook up with a girl.

@judi.
We woke up, got a little cozy, phone rings, she answers, her face lights up, she says sure., OKOK, , hangs up, says someone is coming over in an hour or so, go home.
Argument begins, run out of gas and nasty and sarcastic comments in 10 or 15 minutes, Kiss her good-bye, whisper into her ear that that was the last time I would ever kiss her and the last time I would ever set foot in her apartment.
Went to the bathroom, took all the condoms, I paid for them didn’t I, left

Get irate phone call around 8pm. Where are my condoms???
I say, I bought them for my own personal use, they were not in a box with a ribbon so you know they weren’t a gift. She makes nasty comment, hangs up and probably sends Prince Charming to the drugstore.

So she initiated the breakup and there was enough latent anger to flush the whole thing away in 15 minutes.

SRM

Sadly, yes.
I made the mistake of thinking sex would keep bridging the gap between a boy and myself. We got along great, I thought I knew him, but it turned out he wasn’t at all who I thought. He played on my emotions to get some. I realized it a lot, but kept writing it off, telling myself that he would change or that it would be okay because eventually it had to mean something to him like it did to me. It didn’t. I won’t lie, the sex was great, but the pain of cutting that off from someone who really didn’t care wasn’t worth it, in my opinion.

I definitely wondered into my second Marriage thinking that sex was one of the most important attributes of a marriage, since my first wife claimed that was the reason she left me. I studied and learned ‘techniques’ to increase sexual ability and such (blush).

Sex become the main component of my second marriage, to the point where, we couldn’t talk without fighting, couldn’t work together on any other aspect of the relationship or family but we could have sex 10 times a week and twice on Sundays. I guess we were so busy that we didn’t really have time to communicate any other ways. Of course, since sex is somewhat of a thermometer for the relationship, even the sex became mechanical when there was no other loving action or communication.

Then, of course, every time I deploy, sex isn’t an option for me. Sex was something she still needed. I needed the other aspects of the relationship and there was nothing there.

I guess my story depends on what the definition of good sex is. Is it as tangible as number of orgasms for each person and duration of sex. I guess if communication and relationship are also measured then I never really had good sex.

I’ve made bad decisions that were good sex, that’s for sure.

I’ve also stayed with people even though the sex was pretty bad.

yes.

Absolutely. That was totally how I was with my ex. The sex was the greatest I’d ever had but he was always cheating on me, disrespecting me, even getting physically violent. But I stuck around for awhile because I was afraid I’d never find another strong physical attraction like I had with him. Wrong choice.