Do you have friends that are flaky unless they have no one else to hang out with?

Yes, we all come across these people occasionally in our lives. I don’t think those people are really my friends when they begin those sort of behaviors. They generally will have some other traits that I don’t agree with as well. But, really? I just keep the door open if they have the decency to grow up, and if they do great, I have my friend back. If not, that’s fine too. I can upgrade.

Yes, of course. One of my best friends is kind of like this. Yet he is still a best friend and always will be, because I will always enjoy hanging out with him when given the chance. He has only really started calling me again now because his girlfriend instigated “a break”, whatever that means, and either he’s lonely or he asks me if I’ve talked to her or if she’s mentioned him. Yes, he does use me, but it’s complicated and I get over it and don’t often give him what he wants (as in I don’t go and act all nice to his girlfriend and get her to talk to me just so I can report back to him). I just pretend I’ve tried and tell him it hasn’t worked, and most of the time he’s ok with that and we get on with being friends in our own right. I know that even though he’s not always in the foreground of my life he will always be there when I need him to be, and I’m always here ready for him to be ready to talk to me.

Sometimes, I don’t think that being flaky is intentional. Admittedly, I am often accused if being flaky. But, it’s because I’m honestly not good a making plans! I want to do it all so I often double book myself for weekend plans or end up running late to meet someone.

I’m also a believer that not all circles should join. I love my work friends as dearly as my personal friends but inviting them all to lunch wouldn’t happen.

I’ve tried mixing some of my friends before, but I feel like I’m hosting and can’t relax.

I think everyone has friend’s like that. I’ve had a friend since Junior high and she always put bf’s ahead of our friendship. We’d have plans to go out and I’d go pick her up and she’d of left already with her bf. We stayed friends, but now, as we’re both older she calls me all the time to get together and I never call her back.
You get sick of ppl like that. Stick with friends that know how to be friends. I don’t waste my time with ‘fair weather friends’ (as my mom used to say) anymore.