Is it even worth it?
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Amberlee (
17
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November 1st, 2008
I really like someone and i think he likes me to, but today he came to hang out and met my family and they couldnt have been anymore annoying. Every guy i have liked in the past 4 years always gets scared away when they meet my family. Its like their perposly trying to ruin things for me. Ive thought about just waiting until i turn 18 to date so that they couldnt but then i would miss out on so much. So im asking you, is it worth it to try to keep dating and try to stop my family from ruining it or should i just hold off until im older?
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how old are you, and i dont see how being 18 is magically going to make your family leave you alone.
Maybe the guys you’re dating aren’t that great if they run out on you because of someone else.
Date based on quality not availability. Talk to your family.
There, solved.
Spend a while getting to know them before you bring them home. And give them a good heads-up that your family members are annoying. And give your family a stern talking-to.
Do not, under any circumstance, introduce your family to your boyfriends. Not yet anyway. When the time is right (and it may be when you are 18 and more confident) do so.
Also, do not, under and circumstance, sign up for a spelling bee.
if your 17 then waiting a bit longer isnt missing out on a lot, and if you feel like you family is that much of a problem and you know when ur 18 you will be able to move out and get away from your family then just wait
life is short, date like it
What seems so important to you at this time in your life will be so unimportant even 5 years from now, probably including the boyfriend you just introduced to your family. Family is forever though. Try to understand where they are coming from and it may be in your best interest that they are chasing away guys they may not approve of.
Continue dating and try to leave family out of things for a while. On the other hand, if you’ve got something going on with someone–at a later stage–if that person get scared just because of the way your family behaves, I think there’s a valid reason to question the seriousness of the person in question.
@Amberlee, If you’re not yet 18, and you’ve been dating for 4 years…what exactly does your family do?
I live in the South, nothing about famiies surprise me… give it your best shot…
Tell your family that you need some space and let the guys have a heads up before they meet mom and dad. Also if they run out on you because of your family their not worth it anyway. You want a guy who will stick with you nomatter how annoying your family may get.
as a mom i have ALWAYS been kind to my child’s friends particularly a special friend, anything else would be rude in my home. I would expect the same from them. liking them has nothing to do with it…communication style seems to be an issue with your folks, but as the adults they should be the flexible ones…at first
awareness of ones surroundings speaks volumes in the end…..for anyone
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