What is your attitude towards group sex?
It seems to me that the upcoming generations have more and more liberal attitudes towards sex, including being open-minded about group sex. Clearly, not everyone feels this way, but based on some recent comments on Fluther, I am curious what the opinion of this community could be.
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What ever blows your skirt up. As long as you aren’t hurting anyone.
Two (or more) consenting adults = No harm = No foul.
Not for me, personally. But I can certainly understand the attraction.
come to think of it, my wife and I are chubby enough that it sometimes feels like group sex
Sex is like mind over matter. If the group doesn’t mind, nothing else matters. Right?
It’s not to my taste, but if people are doing it and not hurting others, it doesn’t matter to me.
I don’t think I’d enjoy being naked in a crowd (more than 3 is a crowd in my book), but as stated before, if it’s your cup of tea, go ahead and drink.
I wouldnt want to share my partner. I am selfish
Personally, I wouldn’t be interested, but if everyone agrees, then it’s all good.
point of interest, swingers have a much lower divorce rate than non-swingers and more than 80% are middle-aged Republicans
I’ve outgrown casual sex, so it’s not for me. As long as everybody’s safe, whatever floats your boat.
I wouldn’t do it personally but whatever you want to do in your own home while I’m watching from the bushes is fine with me.
Same as most everyone here stated:
Doesn’t appeal to me but other people can do what they want.
My attitude is similar to that of being exposed to Bubonic Plague, but that’s just me.
And wouldn’t one of the group have to be a professional choreographer?
Not my bag. Sex is special to me.
I tried group sex. Now I have a new problem. I don’t know who to thank.
I was never comfortable with it. The entire time I had this feeling that someone was making bunny ears behind my back.
@astro: that’s reason enough not to do it right there!
also, the fear that someone is taking funny pictures
No way, but after a few cocktails, I might consider a group hug!
Too funny, gailcalled and astrochuck!
Katawa, shudder, I would never have sex with middle aged Republicans, singly or en masse! :0)
The opportunity has never presented itself. I don’t think I would mind, in fact I think it’s something I would try.
Of course saying it and doing it are two different things and I’d most likely be basing my decision on a number of factors. I can guarantee I would have to be under the influence of alcohol or pot (probably both).
I’m curious as to the mechanics of the act. Who puts what where? At the beginning, I imagine it would be kind of like a scrum, all elbows and knees; after a while, I’d think everyone would just be paired up anyway.
Not for me. With my ADD, I gots to concentrate.
@ knot I knooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooow, ha? lol
I’ve never tried it, but I’m curious and would like to give it a shot some day.
Honestly, you never know if you’ll like it until you’ve tried it.
Ya know, I often know what I’m not gonna like without trying it. I wouldn’t like plunging into icy water on New Years Day. I wouldn’t like getting pierced. I wouldn’t like going to dinner with Bill O’Reilly. And I wouldn’t like getting poked and prodded by multiple partners who have little interest in me as a human being. Really good sex happens when you know what you are doing not when you are in a dogpile. Eeuuww
Right. I’m not one to try crazy new things or fads so what I always use to tell my buddies who would harass me is…
I don’t have to eat shit to know it tastes bad.
gallileogirl, I don’t like the assumption that group sex necessarily means the people involved have little interest in you “as a human being.”
But you guys both make a fair argument. Nevertheless, I think that overall people anticipate not liking things a lot more often then they actually end up not liking things. I’m usually in favor of empirical testing—as long as the results are non-damaging in any permanent way.
Generally, if you’re meeting up for a multiple party freak session, they’re not interested in a long relationship, lap. And I think there’s an argument to be made for it actually being a potential trauma.
asmonet, I’ve hooked up with friends who mean a lot to me, who I have been friends with in the past and am still friends with today. I don’t see why I couldn’t also hook up with several friends at once who mean a lot to me, who I care about as human beings. And yes, I do think there is an argument for it being a potential long-term trauma. It really does depend who you are. But I think there’s also an argument to be made that it doesn’t have to be traumatic.
Well, yeah, that’s what I meant to imply with potential trauma. It’s a decision that should be considered carefully. My point, really, is just that if you’re unsure, err on the side of caution and don’t do it.
When I meet up with a group of friends, I look for activities I know everyone will like. It’s about sharing thoughts, laughter and maybe a nosh-not choreography.
The thought has occurred but I am the jealous type so that would stand in my way, I dont like to share. lol.
I’m all for other people doing it. Can I watch? :D
I’d rather not actively participate, though. I spend too much time concentrating on what I’m doing instead of what the other people are doing to me and I just can’t personally enjoy it.
@Gail – I’m an amateur choreographer. If I participated in an orgy, would the orgy be labelled “amateur”?
In answer to the question… If everyone is emotionally and physically safe, I’m down. I’d do it.
shandling, are you sure you are up to the task of organizing a fluther orgy?
A fluther orgy? With all those tentacles? Whoa.
Just to mention, most cautious responses seemed to assume Groupsex equals Gangbang / partner exchange.
I don’t have any empirical stuff or could even quote any reliable studies, but I do know (from that friend of a friend of a friend of course ;) that many or most couples involved in groupsex actually stay with their partner and just enjoy the visual stimulus. Or so he said she said, ehem…...:)
Fluther orgy??? Ohhh…I know who I want on my team! do they have teams at orgies? Well, if not then I know who I’d want to orgy with. that doesn’t sound right but I’m going with it
Ooh! Ooh! Me! Pick me!
(jumping up & down waving arms around)
@Shad; I’m sure any competent choreographer could do the trick. However, I think you’d need a manual with diagrams, too, for the slow learners.
@Knot; not a scrum but more like assembling a toy on Xmas eve; instructions come in Korean, Norwegian,Thai, Faorese, Tagalog, Zulu click (CD included) and English written by the Tagalog speaker.
only if you don’t “Lurve” all over me, hehe!
AstroChuck never eases to amaze, amuse and disturb me.
Mission accomplished. Glad to know I’m not just wasting my time here.
I’ve tried it a couple of times, let’s just say the fantasy is better than the reality. You’d think it would be all about the sex, but then, people let their emotions out, and it just gets ugly. But maybe the people I tried it with were screwed in the head not literally to begin with.
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