Newly single for the holidays?

Well, I’m not newly single, but if i was, I’d try to spend as much time as I could with friends and family to distract myself. I wouldn’t drink too much since that is a depressant in itself, and would only make me feel worse in the long run. forestGeek, are you newly single? If so, I’m so sorry, but don’t forget, your fluther family is here for you also. Feel free to pm me anytime if you want to talk.

I agree with scamp, I try to spend time with friends and family, just making the most out of what I have, the past few years have been hard on me, but friends and family is what makes hardships bearable. Just know you’re not really alone, so long as you have people around you, and that means us here too. Scamps offer stands with me too, if you need an ear, let me know.

Do stuff that feeds your soul. Volunteer at a food bank to prep holiday meals. Visit lonely people in nursing homes with a kind word and perhaps homemade cookies. I agree with scamp, don’t drink to excess, it will magnify your problems if you are down. A glass of cheer in celebration with friends or non-toxic family could be a spirit lifter. Finally, try and count your blessings, that always has an amazing effect on my frame of mind. I am going to try to take my own advice as my husband has moved over 2000 miles away for a new job and will not be home for the holidays. I am already lonely, so I have family and friends coming for Thanksgiving dinner which will distract me a great deal.
If all else fails, I fall back on my “throw myself upon my bed and sob uncontrollably for hours” plan. (kidding)
Same offer as scamp and bsilver if you need a shoulder, get in touch.

Yeah, I’m single this year. I have a great family and group of friends that I can spend time with, but I will be home alone some of the time as well. All my really close friends have their SOs, so sometimes it’s hard to be around them. I like the idea of volunteering. I will also likely go for hikes, roadtrips and snowshoeing. I just joined a hiking meetup group, so I might go on a few outings with them. I’ve also signed up for a class this winter, and that I know will keep me busy!

Being here on Fluther has been great and has definitely helped me keep my mind off things and not feel alone.

Thanks you all for the offers and kind words, it means a lot!

I think SoapChef had a wonderful idea. It’s good to stay busy, and you will feel good helping others. I’ll be thinking of you during this time, and hope for the best for you.

So I was single and alone when I lived in D.C. about 2 years ago. Here’s my advice to you: If you are not close to your family and aren’t really social make sure you rent tons of movies. Also, make sure you get lots of yummy food for yourself so you don’t feel like your missing any of the pigging out. Lastly, just remember you’re single for a reason, that person you were with wasn’t really the best for you so you should most likely celebrate the fact that, hey, you’re single and free to mingle and find that special person that won’t leave you before the holidays.

I would say be up front about what your needs are over the holidays, and don’t feel bad about asking family and friends to include you. Offer to spend some time with younger family members—go to a movie, play board games. Spend time with older relatives, they’ll understand what you’re feeling. Bake cookies and take them to work, help your parents put up the tree, the lights, the whatever. Invite friends you haven’t seen for awhile over.

I felt really bad when I found out that my next door neighbor spent Thanksgiving alone.

i likee having a bf. but during the holidays you dont get too see em as much :(