How do you break this to your friends?

Cheerio?

please be serious. plus that is a little steriotypical.

How about you just tell them?

but how? what do I say? “oh and by the way, I’m moving back to England”?

“hey x theres something i need to tell you…. im moving back to england.”

hey how old are you ? sorry to ask but we might be moving to Cheshire in England too…........really!

Don’t say anything, just show up and act like you never left and see how tripped out they get.

i’m 16. where in?

@pork:Show up? I’m leaving

What are your reasons for moving back? If you’re 16, do you have a choice in the move? That might be a good way to tell them, by saying if it were up to you, you would stay. What’s the story about why you’re moving?

My dad got a high paying job there. and since my dad got one there, my mum got one there also

Just tell them you’re going to miss them, that you’ll keep in touch, and maybe visit if you get some chances to. You’re leaving either way, they aren’t exactly going to talk you into staying (though, trust me, they will try cause that’s what good friends do).

we are considering moving to knutsford in cheshire due to a job offer…...... not sure yet

Well in that case it seems like a good way to start the conversation is to say that you wish you could stay, but have no choice in the matter. With technology you’ll be able to keep in touch a great deal. You can also offer for them to come and visit you some time. I bet most of your friends would think it is pretty cool to come and see you in England.

Good luck with everything!

@suse:i’m moving to grappenhall

I had to do the same when I moved here. I did it by getting the group together (if you hang out in a couple of different circles, you should probably get together with them in that manner), and told them that my parents have decided that we are moving to USA. There were a lot of Qs (“for how long?” “why?” “do you have to go?” “when will you visit?”) and some statements (“wow…that’s far”). After all those were answered, we just hugged and then for the last 3 weeks I was there, we basically hung out all the time. They also taught me how to bike (because while other kids were learning to bike, I was busy playing badminton…i started young)...which yielded some truly memorable experiences haha. And we went on a couple of road trips.

The last week was like a big farewell party, where we made sure we had exchanged contact info (so much easier now that you have sites like FB) and promised to keep in touch. Are we still in touch? 5 years later, and yes, I can proudly say that I talk to them at least once/2 weeks!

IMO, it’s not that hard to tell them, it’s just the feeling sad and worrying you’ll lose contact part that’s hard. Remind them that they now have an excuse to visit you and promise to do so the same whenever you get the opportunity! Good Luck and really enjoy the time you have left, you’ll remember it forever!

When I moved across the country, I just… told people. “Hey, guess what? I’m moving to the west coast in April.” And then I answered any follow-up questions they had.

just tell them. It’s not as hard as your making it out to be. People come and go. It is sad but what are you gonna do? Have a going away party.

It’s nice that you have friends you care enough about to realize they will be upset with your moving away. And you will no doubt miss them too.

You have to tell them, and then see if you can’t figure out a way to stay in touch—email really should help a bit. But it won’t be like seeing them every day.

This is just a loss, one of the many that we all experience in life.

Don’t wait too long to tell them. The longer you wait the harder it’s going to be to break the news to them. Assure them that you will always stay in touch. These days there are SO many ways to keep in touch with friends. Tell them you will visit any chance you get and that they are always welcome to visit you too.

We all go through changes in life and the hardest thing is leaving loved ones to start a new adventure. Just don’t wait too long to tell them.

@Comedian, If you have a girlfriend, I would tell her first. Then, I would tell your friends. The news will spread pretty well on its own.

An announcement during lunch. “I have news. My parents have both accepted jobs back in Cheshire, and I’m moving back on_____.” should do the trick.

I agree with PnL, it is easier these days to stay in touch with FB, blogs, email. And distances have shrunk. My daughters at age 22 and 19 have been all over the globe, as have their friends.

I want to second what @babygalll said. The longer you wait, the more pissed off your friends are going to be. “You’re leaving… NEXT WEEK??? Why the ____ didn’t you tell me???”

I love PnL’s story. I bet your leaving will create intimacy and sweetness with your friends. They’ll be forced to realize how much they appreciate you, and how much they’re going to miss you.

You might also want to look at what your fear is about telling them you’re leaving. Are you afraid that they’ll feel abandoned? Are you afraid that they’ll try to abandon you first, to protect themselves? Are you afraid you’ll find out who your real friends are? Something else? All valid fears. Your telling the truth about what’s going to happen brings up the truth in your relationships. That can be scary shit.

But that doesn’t make it any more ok not to tell them. You don’t want the reaction I mentioned above. Do you? And it’s not fair to them to deny them that special time with you. I bet they’ll want to give you a proper goodbye, whatever that means with your friends.

Good luck! This is hard shit you have to deal with.

When I was about your age I lived in Maryland and my father got a better job in San Francisco. Part of me really wanted to go and see California. California was a much bigger deal in those days. To learn how to surf was my dream, but leaving all my buds and the girls I had lusted for was really hard to get my head around, but in the end I went with my parents and met new freinds and wrote old freinds ( BC Before Computers).Before long it was harder and harder to find the time and eventually my correspondance all but stopped. I fell in love and there was only time to think of her.Her or he makes less difference these days. It’s love that counts. When it comes dont squander it. Savor it.I never did learn how to surf until years later when I heard a rumor about this “Well” place that you could visit through this strange thing called the internet. That’s my 3 cents.

Announce it to everyone and throw a going away party!

Why would they be mad at you; it’s your life? Sure they’ll miss you and you them…but look at it this way; you’ve made great friends. Invite them to come and visit you whenever they can. This will be just one of many transitions you’ll make in a lifetime in you’re lucky…embrace it!

@Comedian, if you have any Web skills, you could make a page that is the Chesire Cat from Alice in Wonderland. The Cat disappears, leaving only his grin behind.

@Alfreda:...I’m a girl….and I don’t have a boyfriend. I have guy friends though

@comedian, So sorry for the assumption. Tell one friend, and the rest will know rather quickly. My reference was only that girls will run with news. Guys might tell someone a week later, and then only if asked if they knew.

I agree with astrochuck. But tell them, i will keep in touch and stuff like that.