How do you get comfortable sexually in a new relationship?

be honest men would a cute shape but cellulite bother u. Even though she’s pretty how much would cellulite bother u

Oh, no! Everyone has cellulite. Even Tyra Banks! I know that a stranger over the internet probably can’t change things in your life too much, but I think that any decent man (or woman) does not criticize his partner’s body. If he is doing something to make you feel uncomfortable, then the problem lies with him, not you. I think it’s a partner’s duty to make his or her partner feel sexy.

And I’m gay, but cellulite doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

@tone. Thank you so much! I guess your right but I’m to busy thinking maybe he will leave me for someone with better legs! I am sooooo uncomfortable about it and men usually find me attractive however I feel like I can never ever wear a bathing suit in front of them. They are going to be like wtf ew LOL

It doesn’t bother me. Really, nothing is more unattractive than a penis and he has one of those. He knows what he is getting into (no pun intended). Maybe he likes you as a person.

And really, what are the options here. You break up with him now because of it or he does it later. Why not roll the dice and accept things for how they are and hope it works out for the best. Here is a hint: some guys are not douchbags.

I’m not the easiest on the eyes and I have managed to have long loving relationships.

oh yah not to mention I get anxiety over if I will be good enough in bed cuz I never sleep with anyone and this guy I really like a I worry. Will I be good? So pathetic I am

thank you john your right. I feel like I have everything going for me except cellulite. I’ve tried getting rid of it nothing helps! He always says I’m beautiful but he hasnt seen my legs yet!

I wouldn’t worry about the sex thing. But I would suggest that you let him know what you like if it progresses that far. Not only so you enjoy it more but so he is comfortable telling you what he likes. Unfortunately people don’t express what they enjoy or dislike because they fear it will be viewed as criticism.

“That feels really good” is usually met with more of the same while “That is weird” is not received as well.

If a man leaves you for someone with better legs, he is not the man for you.

great answer august your right

I don’t have much cellulite but I have other body issues (who doesn’t?!?!)... Even the most amazing looking people have SOMETHING they don’t like… focus on the positive. He will too. If a guy is focusing on your “flaws” while he’s naked with you, the problem is with HIM, not with you.

I just wish I felt more like ” I have cellulite there’s nothing I can do about it I’m sure he has imperfections and I’m still pretty and he should b happy to e with me” but I’m more like ” oh god I have the worst legs don’t go to beach don’t tur lights on LOL”

he hasnt said anything to me but I always wondered how much cellulite really bothered men. How unattractive do they really find it.

One thing a relationship needs is time, even to this day, I still feel a little insecure when I am neked in front of my man, I hate my legs, and all these years, he tells me he loves them. Comfort happens in it’s own time, and you can’t force it. If he didn’t like what little cellulite you have, then, honestly, I don’t think that he would be with you. Hope this helps.

I agree tiggers however he hasn’t seen my legs yet. Lol

We all have flaws that we are insecure about. We are only human. Love your body as it is and I am sure he will love it too. He will love you for loving yourself. Just as you accept his flaws he is accept yours. I am sure he has something he is insecure about.

@ johnpowell ROFL! You said, “Really, nothing is more unattractive than a penis and he has one of those.” That is hilarious. I guess it is especially true if it is one that has been punched, no?
Truly missjena, I understand your fears. This is a common issue for women unfortunately. The fact is most people are not that shallow. They are out there, however and you are probably the best judge of where this guy is coming from. Like Augustian said, if your cellulite is an issue for this guy, then he does not deserve you and he is not the right man for you.

everyones making me feel a lot better. I did ask him what is his favorite feature ok a girl of course he said legs! I’m like uhhh

your right I just don’t want him to feel like I’m now unattractive because of my legs. He’s probably expecting great legs but I dont

God, the media has fucked us. Nobody expects or wants a waif (at least the guys I hang out with). Lots of guys like women with “something to hold onto.”

You are making an issue out of something that hasn’t happened yet. I would suggest wearing a bathing suit the next time you see him to see how he reacts. You might as well find out where things stand now before you invest more into the relationship.

But he probably won’t care about it.

edit :: grammar. probably still fucked something up.

lol I’d wear a bathing suit but its freezing where I live so he’d def dump me on the account of being a weirdo in a bathing suit hehe but I know what you mean. I just wish I felt more comfortable and not care what he thought but hes perfect ; )

Well, I’m sure you have expectations too. Any man that you would have a serious relationship with should be above such judgements, correct? If he has a problem with it, then he is one of the douchebags.
BTW johnpowell, some of them are more attractive than others. It would never be the criteria for whether or not I pursued a relationship with someone.

He probaly won’t dump me for it but be turned off. Thats what I’m really afraid of he’d never tell me though like look I don’t like your cellulite. I just think a thought will pass throughh his head like eww omg dimples. Haha this is my biggest most horrible flaw.

I am sure that you will find that he likes you no matter what missjena. In your heart you are a beautiful person, and just talking to you here, I can see that. I am sure he sees that too.

You will fart, burp, sneeze, and drool eventually if you spend enough time with a person. People do gross stuff when they are asleep. But somehow billions of people are cool with it.

Like everything in life nothing is ideal. Your ability to make him laugh after a bad day might be more important to him than your legs. We have to make trades. Seeking perfection usually leads to a life of reading Ayn Rand.

@ tiggersmom and john thank you so much! You trulyy made me feel so much better I wasnt even expecting to! Your both right! I just get so overwhelmed! He said he’s never been in love and only had 1 relationship. I don’t know if thats a good or bad thing.

That means he has little expectation for your legs.
I bet if you distract him with pleasure he won’t have any complaints.

Thank you dear, and I am sure that when that time comes, he isn’t going to even be worried about it, him having only 1 partner, is a blessing, in a way, you know he hasn’t had so many that you need to worry about it, and, with only 1 partner, you can probably rest assured that he is going to be a faithful man to you as well.

Maybe keep the lights off?

OK, the above was a joke. Really, I think that people who care about each other tend to see each other as beautiful.

As of now I’m assuming he sees me as attractive or he wouldn’t have approached me but my legs! I guess guys don’t find it as much as a turn off as I think??

I knew a girl who every guy drooled over. Long blonde hair, perky breasts that filled out her shirts nicely, great butt, small stomach…

She used to complain about a golf ball sized amount of cellulite that she couldn’t get rid of no matter what type of exercise she did. The only thing unattractive about her was her attitude.

Just have confidence in yourself and enjoy your time with him.

fireside thank you I wouldn’t mind if it was a small amount but its like my entire thighs! I don’t understand it! There’s no hiding it. I do see your point though.

Do you know what to do hon, walk, and walk some more. I do that when i take my daughter to school, and i try to make sure the husband parks as far away as he can from places, so that I can walk, but his knee kills him, so I take that into consideration as well. But, I do have to say that walking is great for the thighs. Not just on flat surfaces though, hills are great! Your friend J.♥

Yeah I do walk a lot and im not overweight or anything its just my genes because my mom has it to and shes not overweight either. I just read up on something called cellulean. It looks promising.

Really, down deep you know that most of that stuff doesn’t work. There is a new one out called Alli, it’s a little expensive, but it is really the only one out there approved by the FDA, and I would trust that before anything else dear.

I really really doubt that there’s enough blood in a guys brain to even think about those little obsessive details when they’re about to have sex.
Those are things that girls notice. Most guys really won’t. There’s nothing sexier than confidence (even if its faked confidence).

Its unlikely he’ll notice it unless you bring it up.

(Ps: Pills don’t work for this sort of thing. Your best bet is drinking more water.)
A very wise man recently said to me: “If it’s that scary, don’t think about it. Just wait until you’re caught up in the moment and all full of hormones. They help, I find =] I tend to only worry about my appearance when my brain isn’t going SEXSEXSEX”
I’m pretty sure he’s not worrying about yours, either.

have a lot of it.

I don’t and wouldn’t care. I have healthy standards but this type of crap really drifts under the radar.
Your attitude is what matters most. If I’m ALREADY with you that means I’m ALREADY attracted. From that point on it’s really more about how you act and how you carry yourself. Just be calm, cool and collected. Take it easy on yourself. Even if you are nervous… big deal. The thought of a girl who’s slightly unsure of herself is a major turn-on as opposed to the “blond bombshell” who thinks she has the world by the balls.
Just be confident, positive and open to new ideas.
Make him laugh too. Having a sense of humor is more important than speaking the same language.

@ delerium good points but what about when we aren’t having sex and he sees me at the beach he will for sure notice.
@ajoiner great great advice is that true to all u men out their since your already dating her and think she’s pretty it doesnt matter about all that cellulite? Seriously is that true

Uh, trust me. If he’s seeing you at the beach and he’s had sex with you… he’s not noticing cellulite.

BTW: If curves on a girl were all that much of a problem, i’d be royally fucked. Or actually… not fucked. Ever. At all. And that is not the case.

@ delerium your hilarious! Great answer girl. I dontmind the curves in fact I’d like my body if I didn’t have so much cellulite. Whenever I hook up with a guy thats all I can think about. ” omg he sees my cellulite I’m never getting a phone call back after this he’s so disgusted. !!! He’ll find a girl with better legs” its really a nightmare for me