Is he a man whore?

I think he’s called a man pig. Maybe I’ve got it wrong I doubt it though man pig.

You two don’t, after one date, have any sort of exclusive relationship. You don’t have enough information to make a decision. I think you are jumping the gun.

Make a decision based on what has happened, not what you “suspect”. Go out with him, get to know him, discuss your and his dating and relationship values as part of getting to know each other. Enjoy yourself. Who knows if you will like him enough after getting to know him to even want an exclusive relationship with him?

welcome back marina!!

@PnL Yes, thanks, I am back and soooo glad to be home.

What was the first date like? Maybe it wasn’t a date after all, but a chance to hang out with someone he likes. He may like having women as friends.

If it bothers you this much after only one date, you may want to do a little soul searching to see just how much of a problem jealousy is for you.

If you think you can handle the fact that you are not his one and only, and that he may have many female friends, then by all means go out with him again, Just keep in mind that you are not exclusive at this point, so he can see as many people as often as he likes.

@ Scamp, the first date (if that’s what it was) was really good. He’s a great listener and I liked that we have so much in common. I’ve never been the jealous type, but I do think him having female friends would eventually become an issue at some point if we do decide to become exclusive.

@ Marina, I’ve known him long enough to know that he’s a real charmer, which is part of the reason why I am so indecisive about us going out again.

But great advice from both of you! I will take it into consideration.

Well then, I would have to say that continuing with him may not be in your best interest. He sounds like the type that would drop a jealous woman like a hot potatoe, because he sounds like a happy go lucky, carefree flirt.

He may view jealousy as cramping his style, ya know? Maybe you should just think about keeping it on a frineds only level and avoid any future heartache.

@joni; Your description of him as a “real charmer” ought to make you tread very carefully.

I agree with Gail. Your description of him as a ‘real charmer’ raises a red flag for me.

Your description of him as “a great listener” suggests to me that he may be the kind of guy that women like. Women complain so much about men not listening. Perhaps when there is one, he just has a lot of female friends who appreciate being heard.

It sounds to me like you really enjoyed that first date, and jumped immediately to an idea of exclusivity. I think if you take it easy, and date again (or a few more times), you should be able to get a better sense of his character—whether he is, indeed, a real charmer, or if he is, in fact, genuine.

@joni- I think if you honestly feel that you want a man in your life who only has eyes for you, I have to say this man is probably NOT it. I’ll bet he is hot and knows it. If this is true, don’t waste your time and look after yourself until the right one comes along. If this guy wanted to “be with you exclusively” then you would know it. Remember, this has nothing to do with you. I say don’t give him much more of your time or attention. If that is what he truly wants, then he will come after it. Make him work for it and don’t accept anything less! Good luck, girlfriend! :o)

maybe he’s gay

@windex… LOLLLLLLLLLL

You should stop being so jealous.

You sound jealous and bitter. Act as if your vee-jay is not golden and these feeling should go away. You might even have some fun like the girls you are jealous of are having.
Remember, a man who sleeps with many women is a pig. A woman who sleeps with many men, is getting in touch with her femininity.

Get in touch with your femininity.

@Mizuki, wth?!?! As I said before, I’m not the jealous type and I am NOT bitter. Remember, I’ve know this guy for a while and I was never jealous when I saw him with women before. And I’m not jealous when I see him with women now. It’s just that if he wants to date me – and yes he asked me out AGAIN – then I think he and I should address the issue. I know women who are dating or married who’s boyfriends or husbands have lots of female friends and they are not insecure about it. If these women he’s seeing are just friends then neither will I. But I will NOT date someone who sleeps around and is looking to add me to his list! And btw, I got in touch with my femininity a long time ago and I didn’t have to sleep with many men.

We could be dealing with repressed energy? Men don’t just see women. Don’t let his getting around bother you so much. If he loves you he will stop seeing the other’s, ahem….not.

point taken, Mizuki

He sounds like the kind of man my daughter calls a “player”. Be careful.