How do you deal with people who point out your wealth without sounding arrogant?

Are you loaded or is it your folks money? Did you pay for all of your stuff through working?

Both, I have a successful career but so does my entire family.

Can I have a “loan”? ;-)

Tell them you think it’s rude to discuss money and if they continue to do it you will sleep with all of their girlfriends.

“Yes, we are lucky.”

Now I need to know…what do you do for a living?

If you want to go “under the radar” then keep a clunker car and clothes to tool around in. When you go to an event with other wealthy folks, bring out the Lamborghini and the furs.

Seriously? It’s kind of hard to help you if we don’t know what these people are saying. I think it’s always best to be polite, diffident, and to not brag. Be respectful of others, no matter what their socio-economic status, and no matter how rude they might be towards you. A little self-deprecation won’t hurt. Nor will a sense of social responsibility. Do good.

If people are pointing out your wealth because you are arrogant, then stop being arrogant. And if they are merely being rude, maintain your politesse. You do not need to respond to rudeness with your own rudeness. It’s well to remain above the fray.

If they are jealous, you should still be kind, honest, and as open as you can be. Respect them. As soon as you stop doing that, you’ll be getting all kinds of shit, in spades!

Negative reinforcement.

Every time they point out your wealth,
just smack them upside the head with a stack of bills.

Hey baby are you single…I mean..uhmm.. yea sounds like a tough issue…

seriously… I’d just say YEA B*TCH I work my *ss OFF every day to have a comfortable life, what do YOU do?

and then Slap that person.

Don’t apologise, hide, or be deprecative towards your wealth (assuming you’re being tasteful about it) because it validates their idea that you shouldn’t have it or you’re somehow an affront to someone that earns less.

I usually focus on the intangible qualities of the item, what it does for you, why you got it, especially if they’re the same basic reasons as everyone else. You might say you got a nice car because it has better mileage and needs less maintenance, nice clothes to score with girls/guys, crazy bling jewelery to validate your burgeoning rap career, etc.

i.e. I like eating out to nice places sometimes and I’ve had a similar reaction but I just say that good food is generally healthier and that I’m a food enthusiast – it’s more of a hobby than just eating out and I try all sorts of places from expensive nouveau to crusty burrito stands.

Talking about the ‘why’ and the ‘experience’ of it also helps to move attention away from how expensive something is.

I’d just nonchalantly like up a cigar with a one hundred dollar bill…

“It comes with its issues as well, like people continuously pointing it out to me.” (Finish with a smile.)

Whenever people point things like that out to me, I explain that we’re not all that different from anyone else, we just have different priorities. We don’t have cable, we don’t take big vacations, and we live simply in many ways which make it possible to be extravagant in many ways (like nice clothes, filling my studio with high quality supplies, and many fun new technological toys). I also usually explain that both my parents got rid of the actually ultra high paying jobs to work in public service and that half of each of their paychecks goes to charity. People usually shut up after that.

I think Augustlan and Delirium have it. Something like, “Yes, we’re very lucky but we’ve also worked very hard.” And if they say anything else add, “Well, it’s not without it’s problems.”

We lived in a prestigious neighborhood when my kids were growing up. I’m sure every community has “that” neighborhood. Friends would accuse my son of being rich all the time. He finally started saying, “Hey, my parents may have money but it’s THEIR money. I’m not rich, I don’t have any money.” I don’t know if it worked or not, but that’s what he told them, especially when they expected him to buy, assuming he could “afford” it.

OMG! You know I have a nice car and I dress comfortable & cute and for some odd reason people are always like “omg you’re rich” everyone thinks I’m rich even the people that are really rich think I’m rich when I’m no where near it!

I just comprehend it as they like the way I look and carry myself. I straight up tell them I am fortunate to be in the situation that I am!

But if I was really rich I would be like I KNOW LETS GO SHOPPING!! hahaha :):)