Is age just a number?

You could let him read this :)

Nothing is better than letting your feelings out in writing(or typing) and revealing it to those it refers to. I assure you, there isn’t a better way to make them understand.

@shrubbery: words from the wise, i totally respect that.

Age is just a number but in your case the numbers may not add up. Remember 25W=20M+10.

Sounds like he is maturing normally for his age. Women tend to mature earlier than men do. You say sometimes he acts like a teenager.. well he still IS basically a teenager, at least emotionally. 5 years may not seem like a lot, and in later years (30+) it won’t matter much, but at the age you two are, 5 years may seem like 10. Sorry. Maybe it’s bad timing right now. But I would at least try and preserve the friendship you have. Be kind. Good luck, darlin’!

There is only 5 years difference between the two of you and that isn’t too big of a margin. You’re both never going to see eye to eye on everything and you really have to learn to agree to disagree on certain things. Like shrubbery stated above, either let him read what you’ve written in your details above or sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk about anything and everything that you’re concerned about.

You’re both growing together along with your relationship and you reiterated at the end of your details that you have the ingredients for a beautiful and happy life together and you don’t want to waste it. Then don’t. Start communicating with him RIGHT NOW, a lot, and work toward strengthening and preserving your future with him. Continue to be patient as you work through this and let him know what your expectations are and that you expect him to reciprocate in a like manner in achieving your goals in your relationship.

What shrubbery said. She’s young too, so you can trust her.

Men aren’t really wired to talk about process so much. Cut the kid some slack on this. It’ll make things more relaxed. That patience will come in handy while you wait between tiny bits of conversation about the stuff it’s harder for him to understand. It’s wonderful that you have poetry. Savor, savor, savor.

I agree with shrubbery, too. Age is just a number, and it will become less of a gap as time goes on. I think that between 25 and about 28, most people find themselves becoming “smarter” about themselves and how the world works, and it can cause you to be impatient with people who are “younger.” He will get there on his own, and it really can’t be rushed. Enjoy his finer points, but don’t think about living with him.

Age is just a number until the older person’s body goes to pieces.

I think so. You can’t really measure a person’s maturity by their age.

kev: ”.. until the older person’s body goes to pieces” lol. It’s alarming to watch this happen, though. The sudden realization that one’s skin doesn’t unwrinkle when you let go of it. Stuff like that.
I’m going to reveal something very, very personal now.
A couple of years ago, my beautiful husband, who always had a very perky butt (I mean, the cutest allowable) was undressing, and I said, You know, your beautiful butt has almost disappeared, it doesn’t really stick out any more. And he smiled and said, Yes, now all I really have back there is hanging bags of dough.
A phrase we repeated at least weekly forever.

That’s cute ;-)

I think it can apply, too, when it comes to disparate levels of physical activity.

we talked and got everything cleared up….thanks for all the comments back! ;)
peace and love
Lotus

cradle snatcher,lol

What is it about young boys that you like?

What is there about young men not to like…whoops did I say that? Never mind, the inner cougar escaped for a minute

I don’t really think that anything is “just a something.”

best of luck with him, just keep trying, he sounds perfect