How did you deal with heartbreak?

Sorry peyton, I know how you feel and am going through it now too – sucks! These or maybe these suggestions might help.

Best thing you can do is take care of yourself the best you can. Do what you need to do for yourself to get through this!

Sometimes life sucks. But without the bad times we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the great times, we’d have nothing to compare it with. Take comfort in the fact that there also exist a pleasure so strong you could never be prepared for, and that the day you find this pleasure you will be able to appreciate it more because of the pain you feel right now. Time heals all wounds, well most at least. Keep your chin up and keep your feet going in front of each other. You will make it through this.

Alcohol. But that’s what I did and I can attest to the fact that it doesn’t work. It’s just a bandaid on a leaky drain pipe. Nope, time and counseling are what helped me. I had to learn to honor whatever feeling I was having and learn to let myself feel things. The only way through it is through it. I am very sorry, hang in there!

Gather your close friends and go on a hike (preferably in the rain). Do something exhilarating, remind yourself that there’s more to life, and as much as it sounds like a cliche, know that you WILL get over this.

Ultimately the best cure for old love is new love. It’s hard to see moving on when you are feeling down from losing that old love. Try to shake it off and work on improving yourself. Try taking a class in something you are interested in or will improve you life situation. Volunteer for some program you believe in. These things will take your mind off the past, help you feel better and you will meet new people in a new situation.

Finally improving on yourself will make you a more attractive target for love. This is the best way to attract a mate and you can only ATTRACT a mate. Concentrate on yourself and think positive.

I’d say you should surround yourself by friends as much of the time as you can. If you are going out, or visiting, and interacting with people, it can help make things more bearable.

Ultimately, the only thing that helps with heartbreak is time, and it can take a long time. I think it took me two years to get to the point where I wasn’t thinking about my former love every day. Eventually, I did have another lover, but I still thought about the first. Heck, it’s been thirty years, and I still think about it, although not with pain any more.

The worst, for me, was going to bed alone every night. It was such a lonely feeling. My mind would imagine this and imagine that, and none of it really helped. I don’t know if I got much sleep during that time. But as each day went by, my hope of getting back together got smaller, and the sense of loss was not quite as painful, and the time spent imagining her was just a little smaller.

Eventually, you will be more able to live a reasonable life. How long it will be before that depends on how attached you were, how attached you are, and how well you can build new friendships that keep you busy.

find someone new. it doesn’t have to be the person you’re going to marry, just be with someone. they’re not going to replace the person you’ve lost, nothing ever can, but that new person will put your mind to the future instead of the past. time will untangle this knot. what got me through heartbreak was the realization that problems like this are not solved, they are outgrown.

I guess it’s important to try many different strategies. It’s not always easy to find someone new. It’s not always easy getting your friends to hang out with you a lot. And time just keeps on going at the same pace it always does. Although, when you feel bad, time can seem to slow down.

I’m so sorry to hear about your pain. You are probably going to have to take it one day at a time. Some days will be awful, and others not so bad. Try and surround yourself with people who love you. Try and get out of town more, even if it is just for a day trip. It’s just going to take some time sweetie. One day you will forget all about this…Hang in there.

Hang in there! Spending more time with family and friends helps a little. (remember to feed the pets and water the plants, too!)

Nothing really helps: But Family, Friends, and Father Time will whittle the pain down day by day.

(Remember what I said about the pets and plants. Been there.)

A change of surroundings is helpful. Also, talking about it. Sometimes, the more you verbalize something, the sooner it moves from emotion to a fact, and the easier it becomes to manage. Also, know that, no matter what the source of your heartbreak is, you are not alone. There are lots of people who can relate, from the been there, done that perspective. Time generally improves things. How much time varies, and when you are young, time never seems to move fast enough.

Hey, Peyton. Good to see you back. I’m sorry about what you are going through, but it is touching to see the thoughtful responses that you have been receiving. Take care. -Jill

the longer you’re with someone the longer it’s going to take to get over them and that’s just the way it is. you can’t ask yourself what you did wrong, what you could have done differently, because you can’t control what’s been done. you have to look at who you are and know that there’s someone out there who’s going to appreciate and love everything about you. things happen for and people leave, life can’t stop. go out with your friends, do things to keep your mind off of it. things will always get worse before they get better. you can do it, it takes a step at a time though.