What mantra should I say to get myself to go alone to events I might enjoy?

Unless you have tickets already, I’‘d stay home and bank the money towards something more wonderful. Stay home and enjoy your home. If you do have tickets, then you’d better go so you don’t waste the money.

How about “I am a strong and independent person. I can find fulfillment and joy within myself. I deserve to indulge myself in the things that I enjoy.”

Promise yourself you’re going to have an adventure and you will.

Wow, that was cheesy

Trust your inner voice. Maybe it will get worse outside. Stay home with a good book or a good fluther.

It’s better to do alone the things you love, than look back and regret all you missed out on while waiting for someone to do them with.

Hi, there. You can also check out answers that people gave to a similar question asked by me:
http://www.fluther.com/disc/26960/i-like-to-go-out-to-hear-live-music-but-often/

…...I stayed home. It was good to do it. There weren’t tickets to the thing, but I was nicely invited – it would have been politic to show up. But I got a great idea from johnpowell from the other thread (thanks answerjill for this). The answer is: Take a camera. jp uses a vidcam but I don’t need to go that far. I’ve done this 100 times, I don’t know why I didn’t think of it.
Yes: you take your camera, just like Ashton Kutcher in the Nikon ads, and you’re functional.
Thank you all very much! Crisis of confidence SOLVED.

That’s a great idea, susanc.

Here’s a ten-word mantra that was given to me by a wise woman. This one has got me up and out and into things many and many a time, including solo season tickets to the opera:

- Make a life out of what’s around you right now.

And this one’s from me:

- Everybody’s single.

You’re not less than a whole person just because you’re without a partner. That one got me all the way to Europe alone, and I’m very glad of it.

I use “the beer is free.” Probably not applicable. ;^)

hey if you figure one out because I would lobe to know! I used to love to go to concerts but my friends that have similar musical tastes are spread all over the country but I still want to go but a concert by myself sounds like a recipe for boredom or disaster… haha

Susan, glad you got your answer!

I want to share my answer anyway… Here’s what I try to remember to do:

I ask the part of myself that wanted to go out in the first place to state its case with full passion. Then I invite my inner skeptic to let it rip and say why it’s a bad idea. And then maybe I’ll hear from the part that wants to stay in and stay safe.

After hearing from my parts, I’m inevitably clear who is strongest, who can concede, and what I really want. It’s amazingly effective.

So much help!!
thanks all of you.
Sc

I know you found your answer, but one more thought:
You’re husband wouldn’t want you sitting home alone. He’d want you to get out there and enjoy.

I like to be pragmatic about it: “What’s the worst that could happen?” I have a car, I can always leave : )

lol Yes, I have a car too. The ultimate escape hatch/back.

Tonight I went to a chorale-with-orchestra-with-little-kids-singing concert, all amateur but with a really good director. ALONE. I sat in a huge auditorium with maybe 400 people I don’t know (in my own town! but I recognized no one!). We were all blown away by how good it was. Some ordinary Vivaldi (what’s not to like?), some wonderful kid songs, and an amazing piece by Morten Lauridsen, never heard of him before, about, get this, his
mother dying of cancer and him having to go through the dark night of the soul and back again into the light. WHAT!?!? I cried, I laughed, the lady next to me put her arm around me, we all sang. The message of the music was very, very helpful – as was your comment, breedmitch, you wise friend you. So true.
Thought you’d like to know. I really do love you guys.
It’s snowing here, deep and fresh.

That makes me happy!

@Susan, GOOD for you. Brava! You made a friend, too, no less a friend for the fact that it was a very short friendship lasting only the length of the song and the hug. We can, after all, fall in love for just a day, an evening, a minute. Why not also fall into friendship? It isn’t necessary to do something about all the feelings we ever have. It’s sometimes enough just to have them and thereby to know we’re alive.

Thanks for sharing this beautiful experience with us!

@everyone, c/o trustinglife: You earned it.

You’ll know when an event is the right one to go to. Something that you’d be sorry to miss.