Women, have you ever gone wild after you broke up with a guy?

I haven’t, but I suspect many women (and people) just want to feel loved. When they didn’t have you to love anymore, they looked for it unsuccessfully with a lot of different people, perhaps confusing the intimacy of sex with that of love. That’s my two cents.

I had 2 one-nighters with two different guys (actually one was twice) after a 5 year relationship ended.

Does that qualify as insane behavior? Earlier this year I went through a bad break up and I did just that. I hooked up with a lot of my male friends in order to narcotize myself against the whole sex thing. This was probably because I lost my virginity to this guy and he was not a nice guy. The crazy came before the random hook ups started up. Right after the break up, I didn’t eat or sleep, my grades suffered, if I was alone for very long I would burst into tears. I’d definitely call that the crazy part. What came after was just me exploring my new-found sexuality. :)

I have “dated” multiple guys after a breakup. I don’t think I was going crazy, I had just had the same “penis” for too long and was trying to make up for lost time. I was safe and it was fun. Typically when a girl and her bf break up other guys that have hung out with her in the past, including many of his “best friends” come sniffing around after the breakup.

@jess: make up for lost time? Does this mean you were missing out on something while you were with the guy, or that you considered the time with the guy a waste, since it kept you from doing what you really wanted to do?

@all: what’s going on? I thought the question said “wild” not “crazy.” I’ve been having computer troubles, so maybe the change didn’t take. But on my machine it says “wild.”

I just like to have sex with different people. That is all.

I have slept with people immediately after break-ups, but it didn’t last. I guess it’s just kind of ‘getting back on the horse’.

Ahhh, I finally understand why I wasn’t getting any in my single days. Instead of looking for women didn’t already have boyfriends, I SHOULD have been looking for the women in unstable relationships. Damn!

Dale, it sounds like you were like me. I made the mistake of always looking for a serious relationship. My misplaced sense of ethics, I guess. If the Man Club knew I didn’t believe in sex without a serious relationship, they’d probably cancel my membership!

Sounds, too, like there’s this secret Woman Club filled with the women of the dreams of the guys in the Man Club. Sigh. hmmm. Wonder if I can find that card, anyway. I’m sure it was in my wallet. Or was that the one that was stolen?

Yeah, about the score for me…didn’t consider that I could have some fun while I was waiting for Ms. Right, so I just didn’t have any fun, even though there seems to be no shortage of women who didn’t have the same hang-up! Oh well, water under the bridge.

Dat crik done run dry long time ‘go.

After a break-up from a long-term relationship, it was nice to have a lot of (safe) sex purely for the sake of sex, and not the emotional baggage that tends to weigh it down towards the end of a dwindling relationship. It was a way to remember that sex can be fun and exciting, and it was easier to get what I wanted rather keep score about who was pleasing who. Usually in a doomed relationship there is a problem with the sex, which is indicative of a problem with bigger things. I think both women and men “indulge” post-break up because it’s fun, it takes your mind off the bad things, and it puffs up the ego a bit.

I definitely did. I was in a two-year relationship during my junior and senior year of high school, and I lost my virginity to that boyfriend. The first, and only time, we fought was when we broke up, and it was pretty terrible. He told me that he had never wanted to have sex with me in the first place (although I was a virgin and he wasn’t). My reaction to that, beyond just being hurt, I wanted to prove to myself that he wasn’t special, that I was sexually desirable, and that I had control over my sexuality. I thought that by sleeping with other guys, I would be vindicate myself. Some of it was very freeing, some of it was more than I bargained for, but I still feel as if it was something I needed to do. I don’t regret most of it at all, and I learned a lot about myself, my sexual needs, and what I want from sex and relationships.

YES. I was numb for about a month after I was dumped. Then, it happened. I slept with anything with a penis. His friends, his band members, strangers, older men, younger ones- I think it’s about feeling something, feeling anything, trying to fill a void, feeling worthless, wanting to hurt yourself, wanting to feel needed, and desperation for comfort. Phew… so glad it’s over!

Kind of, yes. I spent a year ruining everything my ex partner had revered in me. He once said to me, “you are my values” so out of bitterness I went about making sure if he ever came face to face with me again then he’d not want me and I wouldn’t have to chance becoming a simp and falling for him again.

i havent, after i break up with a guy i back off from the whole dating scene and just take time for myself…