How do you know you're over someone?

I totally agree with the music thing. I wasn’t able to listen to the song that my first love and I had had as “our song” for while, but now I can.

Also, you know you’re over someone when you see/hear of them being with someone else, or even just seeing them move on with their life (being happy with a new job, new home, etc.) and you know that they’ve moved on from you.

If you’re TRULY okay with all of that, then you’ve moved on and congrats.

I still have a “fondness” for my wasband 6 years after the divorce. But it is more like feelings I would have for an old friend.

When I hear the song he used to sing to me that made me melt, I just feel kind of nostalgic, but not much more, so that’s how I know I am over him.

If you really were in love with someone can you really ever get over them completely? I still sometimes think about my ex girlfriend even though we have both moved on. A part of me won’t ever get over her I can just make the feelings smaller and smaller. We started dating in the winter so the snow will always remind me of her. Small things like that KILL me lol. So even if you don’t think about someone often but if something reminds you of them in the slightest I would say you’re not over them. How do you know when you are? don’t know lol.

@qualitycontrol

I don’t know either if you can ever really get over someone.

I don’t think anyone gets over their first love. Ever. I know I haven’t. I’m able to move on in a sense and be with someone else and be happy, but I’ll always be a little sad inside.

As for other relationships, I think it’s possible to move on completely.

when it doesn’t hurt to think about them anymore

When thinking about them is more of a “mental shrug” than a captivating reminisce.

There’s a lot of grey area between those two (for me) though.

It’s been nearly 30 years and I still think of her. It was something that was never to be and I had a hard time accepting that. However It has been 20 some years and I still detest my ex! Old feelings die hard or maybe never die completely, I guess.

I think it’s different every time. For one of my ex-boyfriends, I realized I was over him when he sent me an e-mail detailing exactly how he felt and how angry he was at me and I felt a twinge of annoyance and anger that he was dumping all this on me. I did not feel sad and I did not burst into tears as I had previously when thinking about him or talking to him.

For the boy after him, it was when I made the decision to stop talking to him once and for all (a decision I have stuck with for five months now).

Thinking about it, I guess I know I’m over someone, in the sense that I am ready to move on romantically, is when the anger sets in and I no longer feel betrayal or sadness, etc.

When you can recall a memory and smile instead of cry. It will be ok someday, I promise.

BTW, I love your tags.