Have you ever gotten together later?

I have bad follow-through. I can barely get together with current friends, let alone old friends!

I will also admit to having pretty bad follow through, especially because it’s a phrase that people sometimes use as a way to finish off a conversation just to end it. Sometimes either I say it and it’s insincere or they say it ad it’s insincere, but either way, sometimes I never meant to follow through in the first place, and sometimes I just let it slip my mind or I don’t have time.

I never follow through on those things. If I really do intend to follow through though, I’ll exchange cell phone numbers with the person and then some sort of follow through happens then.

This is how I met one of my past bfs though. We went to elementary school together, then didn’t see each other for years (I changed schools), and basically ran into each other again. We followed up and ended up dating for 10 months. You never know what some things may lead to!

I have terrible follow through also. And, like Augustlan, I barely have time for current friends.

Immediate family
Two jobs
Handfull of close friends
Sleep
Done

No more time left in the month.

If it’s someone I really want to see, I make sure I send an email as soon as I get back to my computer. That’s the only way for me to stay on top of it.

If it’s an old work colleague, I’ll see if they’re still at the same org – then send them a lunch meeting request in Outlook. Yeah, I know…but it works!

If it’s an old friend that I genuinely would like to keep in my life, I’ll email them and get something down soon, or invite them along to another social event I may be attending. If I’m busy on the weekend, I’ll meet up with them for something low-key like lunch or a walk around the lake. That way we both get exercise, and we can catch up.

I’ve found that good friends can be relatively rare, so I really put energy into the meaningful ones!

“How about if I give you a call in the next day or two so we can make a lunch date?”

If he gives you his number, call.

If he says actually he’s going to be awfully busy in the next day or two and maybe even going out of town and also having a root canal, don’t bother.

My latest take on this “let’s get together sometime” statement is to try to not even say it unless I mean it. If I say it, I think of it as a promise to actually call and plan something. If I know I can’t or don’t really want to get together in the future, I try to find some other closing remark.

I try if I can find the time but that is not very often.

You know, when I say it I really do mean it. However, my mind and my life are not always on the same page!

@aug- Ditto. It would be great to catch up on old times but it’s just too hard.