Why am I bored and lonely with out him?

I was gonna make a quick answer “sounds like someone is in love <3 :D ”
But you said it yourself…

People experience love in different ways, and this is simply your head telling you you miss him.

Don’t worry about it, accept it, and you’ll get used to it :)

Hope that helps.

It’s sweet! And don’t worry, it’ll calm down eventually – in fact, you should only really worry if/when you start to feel the opposite; lonely and bored when you’re with him!

Sounds like love to me, too.
But see if you can’t find a good book or something to read when he is away.

You can eat oatmeal gruel for your whole life and since you’ve never had anything else, oatmeal gruel tastes just fine.

Then, one day, you have something very tasty. Like a caramel apple, or BBQ ribs, or some Taco Bell or something. Mmm mmm, sure tastes better than gruel!

Then, every time you have to eat oatmeal gruel after that, it never tastes quite as good as it used to. Sure, it’s nutritious and it fills you up, but boy howdy, is it bland.

Being with him is probably like that. He’s probably interesting and fun or you wouldn’t want to stay with him. And when he’s not there, all that goodness is…missing. Sure, you can occupy yourself, but it’s just not as fun as it used to be.

I hear that once you’ve been married for a while, you’ll be glad to kick him out of the house now and then. :) Until that point, there’s just a him-shaped hole in the heart that it’s hard to fill otherwise. Like you said, you can’t be around him all the time, but it’s those times without that make the times with him that much better.

Most importantly you are aware of it and asking the right question. While this may seem sweet and a reflection of love, it can quickly hurt a relationship if u become too dependant on his company.
Many people go through this. My advice is to make an effort to invest in yourself so when he’s not around you won’t miss a beat. Find hobbies and friends that interest you. You’ll start to enjoy your alone time!

Love hurts

I would like to suggest that you not spend all your time with only him… For a relationship to be health you do need to maintain other relationships. So if you have completely shut out other friends…you might be spending too much time with him. I know that’s a hard concept.

I know how dreadfully prosaic this is going to sound, but when you’re not with him, you’re suffering from dopamine withdrawal.

New love cranks up your brain’s output of the neurotransmitter dopamine, which is the chemical basis of pretty much all of our pleasure. New love (and the sex that typically accompanies it) is one of the most powerful dopamine triggers we have,

Dopamine also happens to be quite addictive. When we get a big hit of it, we crash hard, and then start looking for another hit. Until we get it, we’re somewhere between antsy and miserable. Its essentially the same mechanism that makes gambling addicts miserable when they’re away from the craps table.

Does he feel the same way about you?

While it may seem sweet and all to have that feeling, that is not a healthy way to live. Find things that you enjoy that you can do on your own and make sure that you have other people to spend time with when you’re feeling the need to be around people and he isn’t available. You also have to e careful because, in the event that something goes wrong and he isn’t around anymore, you don’t want to be so completely dependent on one person. There is no problem with wanting to be with a significant other; that’s perfectly normal. When it is unbearable to be without them and you lose yourself as an independent entity, it becomes a problem.