Your thoughts on codependent relationships?

Based on your question history, I have to wonder if counseling would be an option for you? (And I mean that in a positive manner – counseling is not a dirty word.)

Why is it that nice people get burned (relationships)? Is it the partner that they choose?
Who do people insist on going back to someone (relationship), who at one time treated them poorly?
How do you get over someone you love?
What do you do when you’re emotionally exhausted (burned out)?
How do you get closure and move on (when dealing with the end of a relationship)?
How long should you “wait for someone” if they say that they need time to think about things (when in a relationship)?
This may seem like a silly question, but, if someone said “No, I have not moved on emotionally.”, does that mean that they still love the person (or are in love)?
What’s the deal with me sabotaging relationships?
How do you go about regaining someone’s trust, when you (unintentionally) hurt them?
How do you deal with a break-up without losing your head?

There’s a 12 Step program for codependents.

I don’t know. Let me ask my boyfriend.

@jmah; You are clearly suffering; you have asked various versions of this questions a troubling number of times and gotten all the good advice possible from well-meaning and well-wishing strangers.

Perhaps it is time to talk to someone who is trained to deal with such a hot topic. You do not seem to be moving forward. If you broke your leg, you’d have an orthopod set it. So it goes with emotional issues.

It’s been a hell of a month (December until now). You’re right and it’s something that I’ve thought about the last couple of days. I’m looking into getting help with these issues. I truly appreciate everyone’s help/advice and opinions here.

Good for you! We’ll be here for ya!

Good luck to you :)

If you need any help finding help, let us know. There are a couple people in the mental health field and plenty who have had to navigate it who might be able to help out.

And I hope everything turns out okay for you. :)

Know that many have experienced troubled relationships and lost love. It hurts, but it does eventually get better. Here’s to you and your quest for a whole heart!!

There is a writer name of Melody Beattie who has written several excellent books on codependency. I agree that counseling is definitely a good thing for just about everyone but her books might be helpful in the meantime.

My thoughts: run away, run away, run away, don’t look back, run away.