I was being stalked by a man at one of my previous places of employment. It started off innocent enough, with him simply trying to make casual conversation, which was okay with me. I knew he was interested, but it wasn’t in any way that was inappropriate.
But he started getting creepier and creepier as time went on. It got to the point where he would come into my workplace every night, try to get my number, address and full name. There were a few times he even tried to convince me to meet him at a restaurant after work, without telling anyone where I was going. No matter how often I told him I wasn’t interested, he wouldn’t stop asking. He came in so often he was able to learn when I generally got off work and he’d try to stand around and talk until that time. He started bringing gifts to me, even though I clearly didn’t want them. He would just set them down and walk away. He also told me that he’d buy me clothes or whatever else I wanted, if I would hang out with him.
Despite being warned multiple times by some of my bigger, male superiors, he still wouldn’t leave me alone. The only reason my work took the intimidation approach with him is because it was clear that he wouldn’t back down from a female, despite their disinterest. I wasn’t the only female he was behaving that way toward, but his behavior was escalating with me, to the point it was bothering other people, too.
He was eventually trespassed from the property because of his behavior and warned to not talk to me ever again because he was giving me unwanted attention, and that if he ever came onto the property again, especially if it was to contact me that the police would become involved.
The very next day, he came in. I was on my break and people called me to tell me he was standing around, waiting for me. The police were called and they made it clear that he would be arrested if he came onto the property again. When they looked up his information they found that he had been trespassed from countless places, including Oregon’s biggest mall (which is not small) for similar behavior.
A police officer ended up telling me the apartments the stalker lived in, because outside of everything that had been done, there wasn’t much else they could do, so he was doing me a favor in a way. Just in case.
Yeah…. That was longer than I intended. But the guy never once asked how old I was and I know for a fact that he assumed I was under 18, because of comments he’d made, but he was still intent on getting me alone with him.