Besides a bar or the supermarket where is a guy suppose to meet a lady worth spending his life with?

here?

no, in all seriousness i struggle with this one too… i could say things like:

on a swing
at a book club
doing a parachute jump
sitting on a bench in a park, crying
interviewing for the same job
in a hospital waiting room
bird-watching
doing something clumsy in public

but really whenever i think of being receptive to meeting the man of my dreams i can never find anyone really that interested in me in those places mentioned above….maybe I’m just too ugly fat and uninteresting… or maybe all the decent ones really are already taken. It seems so.

@lynneblundell (your first post) Drat that is exactly I hat I came to this post to say :(

it’s not often i pip someone else to the post…great minds!

i do actually think this would be an ideal place to meet someone….i think relationships should begin with the meeting of minds.. although the whole physical thing is…physical attraction i mean is rather important too me thinks…....and exciting

in which case…maybe they should consider creating “Fluther Groups” like book groups…but Fluther…obviously…could be interesting…. Fluther Meets…

Maybe a church!?!

At work?

that IS the age old question…. we no longer have coming out parties or arranged dating through families and introductions are hard to come by

work is a great place to meet people, but if relationships get sticky it affects the entire workforce to some degree

the exercise club is a good place to meet people of the opposite gender…

people tend to pair up as teenagers and it’s rare to find an available person, but if they are not married, it’s all fair game! I can’t remember the number of times I’ve heard of break ups happening because one of the couple has “met someone else”.

so take up a community sport, or just go out walking – bars are not the be all, end all of new connections

contact your friends…let them know you might be interested in a blind date – who knows? stranger things have happened.

@bristolbaby he did say no more blind dates…. but your enthusiasm is great (to quote fluther itself)

school, usually

Get a cute puppy. Go to the dog park before schools are out and all the MILFS are there. Women that would never talk to you in a million years will stop and bullshit. Tell you how cute Fido is. This is a little trickier. Talk but don’t say anything dumb. GET THEM DIGITS. Call and harass her til you get a date. Find out if she is crazy. If she is run. If she puts up with your shit and is cool marry her.

Get involved in activities that you enjoy. Volunteer for a cause you care about, take a class that interests you, play a co-ed sport, etc. If you go about your life doing the things that matter to you, you are more likely to meet people who feel the same way about those things. Good luck!

Through friends. I met my husband because he was a Friend-of-a-Friend.

Go to places and events that fall into your realm of interests. I met my boyfriend at a gaming store and less than two weeks later we had our first date! Do you like poetry and/or music? Go to an open mic night at a cafe or club. Take some classes at the local college or some adult ed classes.

The best way to meet the love of your life is… by living your life! The only way you’ll find a person who you could possibly stand spending the rest of your life with is by doing what you do best. Go to work, attend school, volunteer, hang out with friends, travel, etc. – whatever it is that YOU do in YOUR life, THAT is where you’ll find that special someone. Just let it happen ;) You never know exactly where it will happen or when, but it will…

I met the love of my life because he was good friends with my boyfriend (now my ex, obviously)... and we’re all still friends. :)

Studies of successful marriages have shown that the best way to meet a compatible mate is through introductions by mutual friends. So, I would suggest that you expand your circle of friends and encourage them to introduce you to their single friends. Maybe your buddy’s wife has a single friend, neighbor or cousin, etc.

The problem with meeting perchance out in the world is that you rarely find someone that you have anything in common with. If you’re going to go out looking on your own, keep compatibility in mind. Don’t look in bars if you’re not a partier, or in church if you’re not a religious type, or on the slopes if you’re not an athletic type. Look in places where you would normally go, doing things you would normally do.

I agree with dlm812 You just need to do the things that interest you. Now you probably are already doing that. The thing is you need to find new groups of people to do things with, its the same theory behind networking. Just meet people and meet their friends ect ect. And don’t be anti social or shy it doesn’t help much. I mean, I’ve met girls at a track meet, an 80s night, facebook, class, through friends and people at work. at amusement parks and over altell customer service for my cell phone. So they are out there. Some advice is, I found that if you are in a negative mood or mindset you don’t meet many people, but if you are in a positive mindset you never know what might happen in a night. So just network, maybe even find new things to do that you’ve always wanted to do and have a good attitude.

Most of the guys I’ve dated I’ve met at school, work, or through other people. I find myself a lot more wary of guys who have introduced themselves to me randomly. The last few things I’ve had I met at friend’s parties, in class, and there was one guy who was a brother of a friend….

Try leaving your cell phone and ipod at home for a week——you will meet more people, I promise….I met my husband at a bus stop, as we road the same buss from college every day.