How do you get over a broken heart?
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January 13th, 2009
I dated this guy for about a week but we were very good friends before then. I fell for him so fast and he eventually did and asked me to be his girl friend. We started out very fast and we had sex very soon in the relationship. But everything was going good. He had taked my virginty so i felt very close to him. He had even told me he loved me. But about 5 days after we had sex he broke up with me for his ex girl friend over a text message. I cant sleep at nigth without cryin cuz he hurt me so bad. I gave him something that i kept for 17 years and now i dont no what to do. How do i get over this. I no he used me but i still miss him.
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Time is the only way I know to diminish the pain of these things. It’s a hard answer to hear, but the more time that passes, the less it will cause you pain. Unfortunately, it might take a year or more.
He sounds like a jackass.
Anyway.. time heals a lot. And go out with your friends! They are the people who can work wonders and help you forget he even existed.
Wow, I had something very similar happen to me just a month ago. I know how it hurts and I know that it will take a long time for you to recover from this setback but trust me, it will get better with each day that passes by. Surround yourself with your good friends and don’t forget to continue to do the things you love. The more time you spend active and around people the less it will hurt. It may seem impossible right now to think about anything else because he misused you, he violated your trust and to top it off he didn’t even give you a moment’s notice before he was back with his ex.
You miss him now, but you will start to understand that this jerk is not worth the tears and suffering. Hell, from what you’ve described he probably isn’t worth the air you fart. Once you realize that you deserve better from a relationship, you will be ready to find romance again.
At least you can take some practical knowledge from this experience. Now you won’t be so eager to dive head first into a relationship and so easy to hurt when it comes to an end.
spend lots of time on here x
According to noted fantasist and crank Harlan Ellison, you’re only allowed twelve minutes of wanton self-pity. Anything more is indulgent. On the other hand, it doesn’t really work that way for the rest of us. Time will help, and time spent with others even more so. Don’t mope around on your own, because you’re only stewing in your own juices…
@cschack pickled things do taste quite nice though….:-)
thank you all for you help and advice =)
“The best way to get over someone…is to get under someone else” I don’t know who originally said that, but man was he/she a genius. On a less ridiculous note…I think time is the only real way. I’m feeling the extreme pain of a broken heart right now, but it is getting a bit easier each day. It’s taken 5 months to be able to say that though.
@adreamofautumn: I’m not sure there isn’t some truth to that saying. It should help prop up the self-esteem that takes a huge hit when someone dumps you.
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