Do you think it is rude when someone points out an obvious physical flaw?

I don’t think it’s too bad.
Sure it’s embarrassing to start of with, but it;s much better when you go, yeah you got it, you look great now :) or something.
They would feel better then.
Do it gently though, my Mum is the sort of person that goes “my god your breath smells!” or something in front of people with no shame. so take them to a side and do it quietly.

loving ‘the jerk store’ tag

It really depends on the context, there are a few friends of mine that I tease about being too short or something. But yeah I know what you mean its like they go out of their way to attack your confidence or something. I usually just say something like, Yeah, you’re just jealous baby ;)

Yeah, that’s a tad bitchy. I guess it’s ok if you know the person well enough to joke around like that. I do that with my best friend. I tell her she’s too damn short and she tells me I’m a freak of nature. (I’m not that tall.) But I wouldn’t do that to anyone I wasn’t super close with. (My goodness aren’t you ugly..)
I will however tell someone if there is something in their teeth, or a leaf or whatnot in their hair, a string stuck to their clothes, or toilet paper stuck to their shoe (hehehe).

Yes, it’s extremely rude! I hope you thanked her and returned the favor.

It’s horribly rude. But at least you got a warning about that person up front.

I, for one, love it when people remind me of my insecurities.

You are a better person than I am Peyton. I am well aware of my shortcomings and am not all that fond of being reminded of them. I think it is extremely rude.

File that under completely unnecessary.

“Ohhh dude, did you know you have a giant zit!?”

“No, I wasn’t aware of that throbbing on my face for the past week, nor have I seen my own reflection since then either.”

I’m with peyton. It really helps me get closer to offing myself, and that, of course, is everyone’s goal.

p.s. do I need to add the tilde?~

I think if someone was to say something like “I see you have a tumor growing on the side of your face or “how long have you had 12 fingers?” That would be a little rude but if they are just saying “you have catsup on your tie” that would be all right.

I think it’s rude to decide it’s a flaw.

The old joke goes:
The jerk store called. They’re out of you.

@GAMBIT Telling someone they have ketchup/catsup/whatever on their tie is different than saying “Having a problem growing some hair, are we?”

=]

@Allie my point exactly :-)

I agree with Allie. If someone told me something about a physical characteristic, I would probably think they are weird for being so rude and i would not want to hang out with them, and i would probably say something rude back. if it were a friend of mine, they would not say something like that. they might start a discussion about something like hair color but i wouldn’t expect it to be rude.

if someone pointed out that i have food in my teeth or something i would be grateful.

@GAMBIT Apologies. Your capital “That” threw me off. I’m back on track.

@Allie – no problem at all. You never have to apologize to me.

Well, it’s not a flaw, but when I was 4, I asked a hugely pregnant woman, “What’dja go and swallow a basketball for?”

SMACK!

Yes, I did learn a bit about manners that day.

There’s just something about your third eye that really freaks people out.

I don’t mind though

@aprilsimnel that reminds me of a funny story my mom would tell me. when she was pregnant people would walk up to her and be like oh wow :) are you pregnant. and she would just be like. nope….. talk about awkward but hilariouuus

@LKidKyle1985: Your mom sounds hilarious.

I think that pointing out an inherent physical flaw is quite rude unless you honestly think someone doesn’t know about it or you’re expressing concern. I never mind if someone asks me about a scar because they are expressing concern. However, if someone (who is not a good friend) makes a comment about my height, then I get mad.

yes its so rude and arrogant for someone to do that! I cant stand when people point out oubvious physical flaws that you are inxecure about, like say ex: height,weight. But if its something little like “your ears are really small”, “or you have a beauty mark on you cheek” then its not bad.

Now, I’m wondering if Katawa is a god damn giant or an itty bitty pocket person.

There was an older guy who used to hang out at the bar of the restaurant I was a hostess in right after college. He had been an actor, and his biggest role was as a homeless guy in The Fisher King. He drank a lot, and was very lonely. The bartender would only charge him a couple bucks and watered down his drinks, but otherwise let him sit at the bar all afternoon and into the evening.

He’d been drinking so much for so long, though, he had permanent appearance issues from it. One night, a new server, who hadn’t quite gotten with the program in regards to our friend, asked him, “Damn, where the hell is your nose in that mess?” The man was so shocked he just stared at the kid. The bartender got the manager, who fired that server on the spot.

The deal with speaking to people about their stuff, I learned some time ago, is thus:

Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?

If what I’m thinking of saying doesn’t meet all the above criteria, then I had better SHUT IT. Believe me, I’m confronted with this test EVERY day.

when people say rude things one of my first thoughts is that obviously nobody ever taught them when they were growing up how to act.

@asmonet: itty bitty pocket person. :)

I’m a giant, you can live in my pocket and we can go on adventures!
Whatchoo tink?

Sounds like a good plan to me. :)

Next stop, Fiji.

My passport’s current!