Women crying after sex?

Could be any number of reasons: emotion, guilt, pain. Did you ask?

@Dave – It was a good cry. No pain nor guilt.

I’ve done it. I was a bit embarrassed, actually, but I couldn’t help it. I think I felt overwhelmed emotionally, or maybe it was just an outlet for an extreme feeling. But, oddly, it even happened a few times when I wasn’t all that much into the person, and he thought I was disappointed. I wasn’t, but I really did not know how to explain.

People often weep during accupunture. I think it’s the same phenomenon….emotional release plus the usual buried psychological issues.

I cry when I don’t have sex, what does that mean?

it’s a good thing. it means, “ya did good” bro!

@charliecompany34, not necessarily. I would testify to that.

<Thinking hard> I think that in some instances I was overwhelmed by a flood of feeling, which does often express itself in tears, and that the feeling was more emotional than physical.

I think there were also times when there was a painful contrast of some kind, a disparity between what was happening and what I truly wanted (e.g., I wanted him to love me and he didn’t, I wanted him to be someone else, I wanted us to feel good together even when we weren’t having sex) that kind of just hit me when my guard was down in those intense moments. I may have felt disappointed in some larger way and not particularly disappointed in his “performance.”

And it was probably in all cases my own head stuff, back when it was all so serious, and not anything he did or didn’t do during lovemaking.

This is all quite distant past. Now I am more apt to feel playful and laugh. Geriatric sex has a humor to it that you’re just not likely to appreciate before your time.

@jmah
Most often it is emotional release.

@pupntaco
If you were better at it, it would happen more often

@drbill: way to be, good job

Honestly. I do that sometimes, prob 40% of the time. I don’t know why, though I think it’s because i just love my boyfriend so much and sex makes the connection just feel so strong. There’s just a LOT of passion, and it’s so incredible and overwhelming

I cry when I get a massage – but I’m the type of person who holds emotions in their muscles, so sometimes a good romp gets all that crap out, in a nice way.

It’s a good thing. Just roll with it, hold them, allow them to feel their feelings.

My wife has cried after making love a few times. I think it’s like @chelseababyy says: when she feels a super strong emotional connection.

On my side, it feels like incredible sex, but I’m not sure I feel the connection the same way she does. Making love makes me feel an intense love, but not something so overwhelming that I have to cry.

Yeah. Sometimes the passion and emotion just builds up, and after something that can make two people just feel so connected, it’s all you can stand to do. It’s not a cry of sadness for me, it’s more just like “wow, this is just incredible.” It’s one of those 1,000,000,000 feelings all at once kind of things. You just can’t hold it back.

The only time I’ve ever cried was when I was with a guy with whom I had a very unsatisfying relationship. With my current boyfriend, I never feel a huge rush of emotion. Mostly I feel peaceful. Also, we tend to laugh a lot about stuff that happened or we just do stuff to make us laugh.

I cried every time for a year after I got together with my husband because (and I’ve had time to think about this) it was such a relief/new experience to be so safe.

Later we got to that geriatric place jeruba described so exactly. You young’uns have something nice to look forward to.

@susanc I think you’re right about the safe feeling. That’s a huge part of it.

Id say crying after is a better sign than crying during sex, but Im not a female and Im not a cryer so I cant offer too much more than that… All of these responses from women sound good and Im glad to know this is a fairly common thing

For the record, I never cried during. Yow. Different topic.

I have only done this when I was with my ex, whom I was in a long distance relationship with. We would typically see each other for a few days at a time, and the first two or three days, everything was fine and dandy, and the last day we were together, things would get emotionally very intense because we knew we would be parting ways. I cried once after we fought and had makeup sex because of how strongly I felt connected, and a few times just because I knew he would be leaving. He actually cried once because of a rush of emotion and because we had been discussing his father, who had passed away from cancer a little before we got down to business and he was telling me how comfortable he felt with me and how he had never been able to tell anyone else those things. It was probably the strongest emotional bond we ever had.

and shit, now I miss him and want to see him (and have sex, no lie)...