Has this ever happened to you?

I would get pissy. I don’t like secrets. But obviously you aren’t very good at concealing your intentions, otherwise they wouldn’t know and therefore not get pissy.

Not “secret”. “Surprise”.
No one likes secrets, while some people actually like surprises.

I’ve never had someone get angry at me because of a surprise I’m planning for them, because I assure them they will like it, and they believe me.

I can never contain myself.. But still. There’s no reason to get annoyed when I have good intentions.

Make those intentions clear!

I DID!

How long until they get the surprise? I would get upset if I have to wait a long time.

Some people really hate surprises. Just start crying, make them feel guilty. :-)

March 14th they get it. Hahahaha. crying hmmmm,
I just hate when I do something WAY good. and people make me feel bad, ya know?

See that is way too far away, that would make me upset, especially if you made a big deal out of it.

I really didn’t. All I said was “ohh my god” and i thought he has his headphones on.

Meh it’s not a big deal either way – it seems like you’re a great friend but in my mind I always think “why is this person letting me know there’s a secret they can’t tell me? That makes no sense.”

Yes it has happened to me. I would talk about it but it’s a secret too.

Haha.

Yea. I love reading threads like these….except sometimes yea they are way out there.

I don’t like surprises. I really don’t like it when someone says “I have a surprise for you, but you’re not going to get it until March!” Well, then, why did you tell me?

And if the person you got the surprise for doesn’t like surprises, then just don’t do it again. Don’t play the martyr “I did something nice, and you didn’t like it!” card.

@cwilbur Well.. That’s not what I said to him~!

@chelseababyy: not to him, no, but it’s what you said above: “I just hate when I do something WAY good. and people make me feel bad, ya know?”

Getting a surprise for someone who doesn’t like surprises and then making a fuss about it is not “something WAY good.” It’s something WAY annoying, from the viewpoint of the recipient—and if you’re getting a gift, it’s the viewpoint of the recipient that you ought to be seeing things from.

I didn’t make a fuss, that’s what I’m saying. I just said oh my god, out loud, because i thought his headphones were on. That’s still no reason to act like an asshole, otherwise fuck it. I won’t do anything nice anymore. But hey, it turns out he figured out what I was getting for him, then felt like an asshole for ruining the surprise.

Next time maybe just tell a white lie, like if you say “Oh god!” and s/he asks what’s up just say you forgot to send a birthday wall post to someone on facebook or something.

If you have a pattern of doing this ‘suprise’-thing & it’s always something simple like floss….
I’d be a bit tired of your ‘suprises’
Actually, if everything you did with or for me was ALWAYS labeled ‘suprise’...It would probaly start to annoy me.

I never ever ever do surprises. This is the first time, in a year that I’ve done one.
and @artificialard good idea!

I HATE SURPRISES. If someone really MUST surprise me, let em pay off my credit card balance.