When did you know that you wanted to marry your partner?

When I found out the rabbit died.

Care to expound, @AstroChuck?

I’m refering to my first marriage, btw. If we’re talking about my current marriage, then I guess by the second date.
@andrew- nuff sed.

@AstroChuck——-woooooooooooo!!!!! That could do it!

We just really grew into the idea, together. It just always seemed so natural with us. Even the “getting to know you” time, at the beginning of our relationship – was never a chore. We just really understood each other. Watching him, with my daughter – I’d never seen that kind of love shown to her by her own father. He was/is patient, kind, caring, loving and teaches her things. He never tried to win her over, he didn’t play games to earn her love or bribed her. He was honest with her and me, always. I just knew – I just don’t remember exactly when !

@AstroChuck – about the second marriage, that’s pretty cool! :)

He had me at the story of The Three Little Pigs . Seriously, ask blondesjon.

Yes! moment, for sure.

The first time I saw him, leaning against the wall of the Indian-food restaurant of our first date. But it was so scary I didn’t dare take it seriously, until it became impossible for us to ignore. I just “knew”. We were married in 4 months, and after our first date, we spent literally every single day together for a year.

Hard to say, The first 5 minutes that I met her I realized there was something about her but I couldn’t put my finger on it. I was in another relationship at the time and things just kind of stayed friendly. So anyways she moved back to her home after a year but we stayed in touch. Then I became single and did the whole single life thing for about 8 months. Which was fun but over rated I think. Anyways, it just hit me one day that I was actually in love with her and that’s when I decided I had to do something about it or I would miss the opportunity forever. So it took me a couple months to come to the decision but I decided I wanted to marry her. So I guess out of the blue I asked her one day, and she was shocked lol. She couldn’t give me an answer right away, in fact I got an answer about a month 1/2 later lol Though in fairness I happened to ask when her mother was out of the country and hard to reach, so that was a big deal. But anyways the more we told each other about our side of the stories from when we were friends and she was here and after she left, the more apparent it became we had a thing for each other, we just didn’t really know it. Anyways I guess its interesting because we didn’t do the normal steps of dating and all that jazz and neither of us were really looking to get married to anyone at the time, until after all that of course. I guess that would make it “A “settling” of straying thoughts” if anything.

ummm Right before she dumped me…
( about… 3 hours before we were engagement ring shopping, (signed up for credit and everything just put your name down) and then while at dinner she said she had been seeing this other guy and it was over.) so yeah. right about…..then. well. 5 seconds before that.

I’m not married, but I’m hoping it’s going to be a case of simply knowing after a couple of dates… although that’s just the fairy princess in me and that’s never going to happen really is it!

i didn’t know until i almost lost her.. and even now i sometimes doubt… as i get older i’m finding out that love isn’t like in the movies.. it’s not a fairytale… it’s a choice.. how in love you are will be directly proportional to your level of commitment ..

Before we met.

when she got pregnant.

ok not really, we were dating for a few months and she seemed like a good choice, thinking about it rationally. It turned out she wasn’t.

As for my current partner, I am not sure if I want to marry her. She has stood by me during the hardest times and is a wonderful person and we get along great, but we tried living together and it didn’t work. So even though I adore her and she’s a geat friend, I cannot imagine sharing the same flat or routine with her.

Why is she hard to live with?

When my wife to be bought the wedding rings! I’m Scottish…
And her mother baked a wedding cake…
weve been married 38 years…

psyla: we have different routines and she is very untidy. But the main reason is that we each have a 3-year-old and they don’t get along for more than a minute. Plus her daughter sleeps at 8 and wakes up at 6, whereas mine sleeps from 10 to 9.

Ah yes. Usually, in a marriage, one is a “hoarder” and one is a “trasher”. One will leave “piles” while the other is well-organized. The kids probably realize that they have some control over you both in that they get attention & create a reaction in you by their bickering.

I think it was when he was taking care of me when I was sick. He went out in the wee small hours to get nyquil and funyuns and general feel-betterers, and when I whined and told him the covers were out of phase he knew what I meant and fixed them.

I’ve been with my fiancee for almost four years, and I’d say that we knew within the first month of dating/our relationship. We talked about it a lot and both knew that what we had was different than anyhting either of us had ever experienced. We were only 17, so we had skeptics, but so far we’ve proved them wrong. Sometimes young love does last :)

When we started talking about the future and it included an “us,” rather than a “you” and “I.”

When I started to feel really safe around him. I’ve never had the feeling before. And when we started talking about the future and all that jazz.
Also when I saw how great he got along with my family. Which is crazy. They never liked any of my ex’s. But they ADORED him. Especially my 6 year old brother, and that’s a huge thing to me.

The minute she walked into the room. It’s all true. As if predestined.

There was a day when I saw him standing on my porch in his firefighter uniform with the sun shining brightly behind him. I know it sounds crazy, but I looked into his eyes and I just knew. I felt it In my heart and throughout my body and soul that this was the man i would grow old with. We were just good friends then. We started dating within a couple of months. We have been together seventeen years and married for sixteen. He is still my best friend.

When the rabbit died.

@gimmedat- Uh…, see answer #1.
That’s copyright infringement.

Oh, so this is some old joke, eh? Sheep, I think, would be funnier.

I actually don’t get it. What’s up with the rabbit?
I’d rather be embarrassed than ig’nant.

It wasn’t an old joke to me. That rabbit dying resulted in two of my three daughters and eight grandchildren.

Ok, since that didn’t answer my question, I remembered a website I once visited… Google. This article on Snopes answered my question.

In the olden day, pregnancy tests were done with rabbits, when they died-you were pregnant. Now, we pee on a stick instead. Rabbit population much relieved.

@Trustinglife well done you for finding that! i was equally as perplexed as you!

@lynneblundell Thanks! That Google sure is handy. Works almost as good as this Fluther thingy.

@Andrew, are you saying I’m old?

@AstroChuck, different year, different dead rabbit, no patent or trademark, and now my first kid is 15, so there.

The first time I saw him. I was out on my balcony and he was on the one next door. I said to my friend who was there with me “see that guy over there,I’m going to marry him” She says yeah right. Three months later we were married and have been married now for 28 years.