For the Facebookers out there...

Removing friends is anonymous. There’s no way to see who removed you from their friends list, and that’s on purpose.

That explains your number going down.

Going up should not happen unless you add someone.

I thought is was anonymous. That’s what I don’t understand. It’s goes down and then back up even when I don’t add anyone. Is it possible the person is taking themself off then back on?

I’m pretty sure that if a person you’ve deleted from your list adds you as a friend again, you get prompted.

I don’t know how it works if a person who deletes you re-friends you.

Thanks for your help. I was just confused about it.

I know how it works if a person de-friends you and re-friends you again—you get a ‘friend request’ from them just like you were never friends before. I have an infamous frenemy that does that to people (like me) all the time.

Your “total friends” can go up without you specifically adding anyone if you added them at some point in the past, but they didn’t accept your friend request until today.

@Perchik

Yes, although there’s no technical way to determine that the person X deleted you or blocked you from their list, but there’s an easy logical way to do that though.

The logical way simply goes like this: It’s known that when someone deletes you from their list, the system automatically deletes him from your list as well. So all you have to do is just look for him/her in your list and if you find him/her, then s/he didn’t delete you. But if you don’t find him/her, then I guess you should look for him/her in the general search, and then either you can send him/her a friend request to and see if s/he accepts it, OR if you didn’t find him/her in the general search, then either s/he has blocked you, or that s/he has deactivated his/her account.

That’s it. :-)

I’ve been on and off with Facebook, I just find it dodgy at times…

@mij

Actually almost the same thing with me. Facebook has been having a very bad influence on me in the past few months, so my interest in it has dropped a little bit.

If you are really determined you can save your friend list to text document then compare it to your facebook friends list when your number goes down.

I’ve had a friend delete their account for a short period of time and then bring it back to life, which created some yo-yoing.

@AlfredaPrufrock

yo-yoing?

bouncing up and down.

@archaeopteryx the “logical” way you suggest would take forever.. I don’t know my entire friends list by memory… knowing which friend de-friended me would be luck.

@Perchik

Not necessarily.
Instead of manually looking for someone in your list see if s/he’s there or not, you can simply search for him/her, and if s/he deleted you, you can see the “send friend request” option right next to his picture in the results page. But if you don’t see the “send friend request” option, then s/he still has you. It’s that simple. :)

I have a real hard time with Facebook and all the ‘ins an outs’ of that website! I am really not sure that I like it all that much, especially the ‘apps’. A lot of them don’t seem to work more than they do and that website really ‘bogs down’ my computer if I am on there very long.

@archaeopteryx The problem with searching for him and her is that you assume you have an idea of which person to search for.