Do you think two people can last forever?

Yes, not everyone gets a divorce, does the term – ‘till death do us part’ ring any bells? Unless you mean something else by ‘Forever’

Hate to be the kill-joy, but people die eventually…

I honestly believe that even after death, two people can remain together in spirit. I am horribly romantic though ;)

Yes, and people can be together forever. I believe that true love can conquer all – including passing from this world. However, Like dlm812, I am an incurable romantic.

yes i do believe two people can be together forever

no i dont mean something else by forever. so you hoesntly believe even after death love can live on. wow you are a hopeless romantic. it’s just you always here “nothing last forver” or “good things always come to an end”.it’s hard to have hope in love when someone else is alway puttin’ it down.

@La_chica_gomela: We have a winner lol

lurve

Well my Granddad died recently and my Nanna is still in love with him. soo…...

Yes.

I really hope so.

There are still some of us who believe the vows mean something… but that number is dwindling rapidly.

Do I go hopeless romantic or snarky grammarian on this one?

hmmm…

@Blondesjon: How’s about you try posting one answer that doesn’t involve “big words” for a change. Tired of looking up everything you type.

these two think so.

Wow peyton, that was in poor taste.

Yes

I heard Spanish fly can help you last longer though.

i sure hope so….

Two people can certainly be together until one or both die, if that’s what you’re asking.

Here’s a heart-warming story for you. My grandmother introduced her brother to a friend of hers when they were 17. They got married at age 18 and they never left each others’ side while they were alive. They died in each others’ arms 3 months ago at the age of 89. Even death couldn’t make them part ways.

but why ever would you say that, bythebay?

My grandparents were married over 65 years. They were together until the day my grandmother died, so I know 2 people can stay together “forever”. But, I am really ambivalent as to whether or not that’s a good thing, in general, not just in the case of my grandparents.

In order for them to technically be ”together forever” wouldn’t they need to be buried in the same hole? Separate holes would be like having a wall between them. Not really together if they’re in different rooms. Ask any pre-divorced couple

Same for cremation… same urn.

Since I am a remarried woman, it seems a little hard for me to comment on this; however, my husband and I are best friends and husband and wife. I know my first marriage wasn’t right – he wasn’t in it for the long haul. He was in it, purely to be with someone – but it could have been anyone. He wanted a maid, chef and someone to accompany him to corporate picnics. He needed the wife, in the pictures and child there, too. Blah!

There is a world of difference now. I’m glad I wake up next to my husband and am comforted knowing that he’s the person I fall asleep with, every night. He’s my husband and friend. I love him more, everyday.

I do believe, with the right person, there is a together, forever.

Someone saw Juno (recently).

Yes, it is possible. Difficult at times; takes committment and compromise, love and luck.

Yes.

Why wouldn’t it be a good thing to spend your life with someone who understands you, knows you, feels for you, loves you? I would think a person should be so lucky. I know I am.

Yes, I do. Even though it’s not going to be me.

Richard Bach seemed to think so in The Bridge Across Forever

Nothing is forever, not even the universe. So, no. They can’t.

@AstroChuck Tell me no and I’ll try even harder! :)

To be completely serious here, I believe dirtydevil521 means an adult couple, living a full life together. No afterlife in question here.

My nickname is Debbie Downer for a reason. ;)

Well, my grandfather died in 1979 and was buried in a veteran’s cemetery. Then when my grandmother died some 20 years later, they stuck her in the same hole. Thus they are indeed together forever, or at least until some future anthropologist digs them up and stashes them in separate acid-free museum storage boxes.

OTOH, my parents have been married 59 years and still play footsie when they think we kids aren’t looking. 59 years is pretty close to forever, especially considering they didn’t marry until they were in their mid-twenties.

So in those two senses of the phrase “together forever” it seems to be possible.

Yes they can. Some people shouldn’t, though.

@Darwin: Aren’t you lucky to have seen such love and devotion in your lifetime; some people never do!

Relationships take work. They take tolerance, and a bunch of other things. Psychologists actually know an awful lot about the characterstics needed in order to stay together. I know a couple of them off the top of my head. For most couples that stay together, the have a way to quickly defuse arguments (a joke will work), that works for you both. You also are likely to need to have a ratio of six good things to every one bad thing in your relationship.

There are many others, and a number of websites online where you can get this information. Some of them will try to sell it to you, but you can glean enough from the free stuff to understand more about this.

If you don’t have these things in your relationship, there is good news. You can learn to do the right things, and you can change your relationship into one that lasts. Here’s another one I remembered: men need to give most women a lot of little things for them to feel loved. All those silly remembering things, like anniversaries and birthdays and surprise gifts and flowers help a lot. As does saying I love you at least twice a day. If you do these things, the woman will feel loved and be more likely to do the things you want in order to feel loved. You know, those bedly things?

So, if your relationship is not doing well, therapists teach you to do this stuff. Guys are often reluctant to go, perhaps because it is a sign of weakness to be unable to solve your problems on your own. If you can’t get your guy to take the relationship seriously enough to get the help of a professional, it’s not good. Actually, marriage is probably not something amateurs should engage in. Unfortunately we’re all amateurs in our first marriage. We learn on the job.

@daloon – if you only ever marry once, when do you switch from amateur to professional status?

@Darwin: I have no idea. However, if you think you are professional, then, as far as I’m concerned, you are!

Absolutley
enough said

@daloon…Trying to use psychology in a marriage is like trying to extinguish a grass fire with gasoline.

@blondesjon, i don’t think that’s necessarily true. psychology is basically the study of what makes people, well, people. and that’s usually what makes up a marriage. not to say that psychology can just magically fix everything and make perfect marriages, but if you read into it, there’s a lot in psychology that you can apply to your own life and make improvements. i don’t know about going to therapists though. i’ve always been a bit eh about them, but reading up on psych for your own benefit (and not paying a hefty price for someone who’s read it to talk to instead) can’t hurt. (:

also i should add that i’m not married, so if you are i mean no offense to your marriage-knowledge haha, just saying

@tiffy…I’ve always been amazed at how many marriages, marriage counselers have under their belts. Plus psychology is subjective and impossible to prove.

kind of like a liberal arts degree

haha i do wonder about marriage counselors, i kind of think that a lot of that stuff is just a good money maker. a lot of psych isn’t provable, but it’s ideas are pretty interesting to say the least. some of the ideas of psychologists have a bit of merit to them, but hey, freud is always good for a laugh. what a crazy man haha it’s so funny that people really believed in his theories and took them seriously enough to publish for such a long time. :p

Actually, the field of psychology is working very hard to develop ways to objectively measure various treatments, and to see if they are beneficial. Cognitive Behavioral Therapists and Acceptance and Commitment Therapists claim that their techniques have been shown to be beneficial by research.

As to talk therapy, I’m half in agreement with you. I can’t tell if I’m getting better because of the drugs, or because of the therapy. I think it’s the drugs that are providing the largest part of the improvement, but therapy may also be contributing.

It actually has helped in our marriage, because it is a whole lot easier to say some things when there’s a third person there than when it’s just the two of you. Also, they have a lot of experience with the things that happen in marriages, and can shed light on what’s going on as a result of that.

Mostly, I think I don’t like therapy because it’s a sign of failure. Failure of my ability to keep the marriage healthy; failure of my mind to cope with the things I’m thinking; failure to stay out of a stigmatizing situation. They claim therapy is totally accepted these days, but as we can see from the comments in this threat, that idea is more of a wish than a reality.

i know it is…but i’m not sure if i could do it

I don’t think so, but I have given up on love. It’s ridiculous how many marriages end in divorce. I believe its like 60 % that end in divorce and 70 % will cheat on their spouse at some point or another(this is what I was told by my sociology teacher anyway).

@AstroChuck – I think that lovetrons are conserved even through singularity events. Maybe there is a chance….

@kelly8906: I was told an Illinois statistic that 80% of people who divorce get remarried.

Now you’ve got 60%, 70%, and 80%

Life is finite though I do believe that energy goes somewhere. I think true love does last forever- even if it is just in spirit.

@Sakata – Just to confuse the issue further, 100% of divorced people were at one time married.

A whole lotta cynics round here… I should be also… but I am an indefatigable romantic, one of the very few left.

Only if both are committed to making the relationship work.

@Tomfafa – Some of us are only pretending to be cynics.

@Darwin Well alright… one thing for sure… the love between man and dog IS eternal!

@Tomfafa Or a woman and her dog.