I'm still having the recurring dream about cursing out my cheating ex? How do I make it stop?

Maybe your dream is waiting for you to let him go.

If you are aware that you are dreaming, try to make a conscious effort not to curse him out, but to let him go. Wave when he waves and tell him, “Good-bye”.

(Kinda like the preacher that kept preaching the same sermon each Sunday. When his parrishioners compained that he needed a to preach a new sermon, he said, “Well, seems like you haven’t heard the first one yet.”).

maybe you need to confront dude in real life for final closure

make the dream come true

You usually dream about the last thing you are thinking of when you go to sleep. Try watching TV until you fall asleep. I also like to say my prayers right before bedtime. This seems to help me. Good luck!

Did you ever try writing him a cursing out letter holding nothing back, venting all your rage and hurt, and then burning it symbolically letting those feelings float out into the ether?

@Marina – I’ve had to do that for several people. One I actually had to send.

It’s very helpful!

@aprilsimnel It has worked for me in the past too. I also have even sent them on occasion (not cursing, but a final letter).

Just remember that if you write a letter it will be there forever. Voices fade. Letters last. Good luck.

I still have dreams about my girlfriend from four years ago who cheated but mine are about us being together again which really pisses me off when I wake up. After getting back together, I broke it off because I didn’t respect her anymore. She is the only girl outside of my family and friends that I ever loved so I guess that is why I still have these dreams. The only time that I don’t dream about her is when I’m in a relationship and still confident that it could be the one. As we all know, that feeling is usually only for a week or two. I think it will be easier for you to get over because girls can basically have their pic when it comes to guys. Just pic guys that make you excited about developing a relationship and drop them like a bad habit when you know they aren’t the one.

@Sooner_Coolkat Hmm, perhaps your strategy could use a little more work.

Assuming that someone is not “the one” after one or two weeks seems a little limiting. What, you have a checklist?

There is a lot more to lasting love than the chemical high. In fact, making the decision this is the one during the height of that is not the best recipe for success.

Marina, perhaps you could use a little more work. I have a similar issue and I posted my opinion so I could possibly help chica. I never asked for any feedback. If you have feedback, aim it at chica.

@Sooner_Coolkat I thought about that before commenting on it.

I decided, however, that it was fair game as another way of looking at the advice you were giving: “Just pic guys that make you excited about developing a relationship and drop them like a bad habit when you know they aren’t the one,” which I did not think was particularly helpful.

I certainly did not mean any personal offense to you. And yes, of course, you are right, I could use a little more work. We all can.