How can you know if a guy is right for you? And what should I do if I'm in love with two at the same time?

Welcome to the collective. Do you mean right for you as in “plan a life together” or right for you as in dating?

If the latter, a guy is right for you if you enjoy being with him, if you have fun together, and if you have some common interests.

If we are talking life partner, you need add in that the two of you have worked to know each other well, you share common values, you respect each other, you want the other person to be happy and successful, and he makes you feel that he wants that for you.

As to what to do about having feelings for two guys, don’t date either one exclusively. Date them both. After some time, your feelings should clarify.

I don’t have an answer for you but you’ll probably find one here. Welcome!

My problem is that I’ve been dating this one guy for about five months and the other guy has been a friend of mine for a while. I feel like I know my friend better than my boyfriend and that we are connecting better in many aspects of life. We kissed a few days ago and it felt right even though it’s against all of my moral and principals. confused
Thanks for welcoming me btw :)

@Sweety87 If your boyfriend isn’t your best male friend, you’re probably not in love with him as much as you think you are

I think you should back away from the friend and don’t go any further until you have resolved how you really feel about the guy you’ve been dating for 5 months. Don’t throw away what you have built with this guy over just one kiss.

If after taking some time to really think things through you feel like you want to be with your friend, make sure you end it with the guy you are dating before taking it any further. I have always been of the school of thought that a person should finish one relationship before beginning another.

I have a question for you. You say you have been friends with this guy for some time, and now after kissing you are confused. Are you sure this is love or just lust?

Perhaps they are both right for you. Some people believe that you don’t have to choose just one.

@scamp
I can’t be sure whether it’s love or lust. That is also why I’m confused about this. And I do agree in finishing one relationship before entering a new.

@Perchik
I don’t want you to be right, but you might be.

@laureth
How can two people be right for one? I believe in monogamy myself, however I can see that all people have different qualities. Maybe I just need to stop seeing both of them for a while just to find out how it feels.

My polyamorous friends believe that it’s almost impossible for one person to be everything that another person needs and wants, and think that monogamous people are putting a lot of pressure on their mate to be their be-all end-all when really, they’re just a human being.

I’m monogamous myself as well, but I just thought I’d throw that out there in case you were not, or had never thought about it that way.

@Sweety87 Perchik is right.

Have to agree with Perchik as well. If someone’s been your friend for a long time, and all of a sudden the attraction blossoms, it’s probably a much more meaningful relationship.

OTOH, it’s easy to be attracted to someone as a date for reasons that aren’t sustainable in a relationship.

Which one makes you laugh?

go for the one that you feel relaxed and more yourself with and that u are passionate about and who is a fab kisser.

You will know. If you get anxious to see the person you love more than the other, then chances are that’s the one. You just have to trust your gut, you know? Do what YOU feel is right, consider all the things you like and dont like about him, etc. It all seems to work out in the end though=)

Your not in love with two people. Your in like.

How do you know if a guy is perfect for you? How do we know that? Ask yourself the question.