Yet again, a contrarian view.
First of all, the whacking off objection. I seriously doubt any guy is going to do that. If you want to whack off, there’s porn on the internet that is so much more… enlivening. Static pix just don’t cut the mustard. The pictures are for memory’s sake.
Now the insult issue. The past is the past, or it isn’t, but in either case, why are you so insecure about your relationship? What are you thinking? That he’ll go back to her? If that’s the case, you have much more serious problems, and you should question why you got into the relationship in the first place. The pictures are for memory’s sake.
There’s the meaning issue. Like, somehow, these pictures will send you to hell in a flash. Why do they have so much power? Why is the symbolism so important? It’s only because someone makes it so. The pictures are for memory’s sake.
How about shame? Does it somehow shame you that your SO has nude pix of past lovers? Do you think someone else will find out, or that he or she will be showing them to their buddies and bragging about past consequences? Are you afraid that you’ll become an ex, and an object of derision in the same way?
Well, if you think this, then I think you’re in the wrong relationship anyway. That indicates a level of mistrust that is astonishing. There is no need to be ashamed that your SO has such pix. In fact, it is the opposite. There is every reason to be ashamed if it bothers you. You are being made insecure by your SO and you don’t trust them. That’s what it tells me. The pictures are for memory’s sake.
I have nude pix of past lovers, and they have pix of me. Some are arty pix, and some are silly pix, and some are just a novel way of experiencing nature. They were taken so long ago, they were taken on film. You could scan them and put them on the Internet, but no one’s going to bother. We have a hell of a lot of better things to do. I could not tell you where those photos are, anyway. I haven’t looked at them in decades. The pictures are for memory’s sake.
Videos are another story, especially home-made porn. But if the ex didn’t make them burn those vids, that’s on them. If your SO is going to show you such vids, or use them to shame the ex, I would seriously question the character of such a person.
Ya’ll are making a mountain out of a molehill, if you ask me. In case I didn’t tell you this before, the pictures are for memory’s sake.