What do you do when you and your 2 best friends like the same guy?

Foursome?
sorry I’m being very helpful to you am I :(
It’s no surprise you all like him. Good guys usually are fancied by more than one person in one friendship group because you all have similar interest in the first place.
I say let him decide, and accept it if he doesn’t choose you over one of your friends. If that would be to much of an awkward situation I suggest you all drop the idea. (sadly :( )

Something I wish I had done back when I was younger, was to be more bold and take things into my own hands. I crushed on a few guys, and it would have saved me time and emotional effort had I just went up to the guy, asked him if he wanted to maybe go out sometime, and resolved the situation one way or another. If he likes me, great, we start hanging out, we become friends, we take it casually and simply. If not, that’s fine, I don’t have to hate the guy, I just understand that there’s nothing between us, so I can focus on another guy who may have that special something. I wouldn’t be pushy, I would just have liked to know if it was yes or no.

But I only got this perspective after spending lots of time crushing on guys but never making any moves, until the day when I decided to take moves myself. So maybe it’s something you just need to experience and try yourself. Good luck :)

Edit: Oh, one last thing. You say he seems to like all of you. You should decide now if you value your relationship with the girls more than this guy, because this situation is a casebook scenario for many things to start going wrong. And don’t let this guy be a player, unless that’s what you three girls agree to. And, if you love drama, then you can ignore all of this paragraph, because these situations tend to be something that attracts the drama llama.

I’m actually having the same problem here. Two of my buddies have decided to pursue the same girl, and frankly it’s getting a little annoying. They’ve walled themselves off from the rest of us to hang out with her, and even through she hasn’t noticed yet, it’s really obvious to the rest of us…

Aren’t there a few novels or movies about a trio of women conspiring together to share a guy? I can’t remember the names of these works, nor what the women did. It’s probably not a good example for you, but it could be amusing.

Forget it. I’m going to assume your are young. Boys will come and go, but friends stick around longer. I wouldn’t really get involved in this if the other parties involved are your best friends. I boyland we have a saying, “Bro’s before Ho’s.” Women should go by that too.

And do you really want to be involved with someone that can’t commit? I would hate to be with someone that was like, “I could have had three boys, but you had the best teeth, so I picked you.”

edit :: @Daloon—Big Love?

start a barbershop quartet

{looks down}

Didn’t you state in your last question that you have a boyfriend?

1. Ignore johnpowell.

2. Tell your friends that you like him and you want first chance at him. You have, ahem, dibs, since you knew him first and introduced him to them.

3. If you have not already done this, ask him to do something or go somewhere where it is just the two of you. That way you can find out if he is interested.

@johnpowell: The Witches of Eastwick came to mind, but I don’t think that’s it. Big Love? Maybe. Well, I suppose so. It’s a different kind of situation though, because they are already married. In this situation they are thinking of dating or whatever, so nothing is established. I still think there’s something more on point.

Maybe he’s not attracted to the other two guys.

@Marina :: In high school we always joked about “calling shotgun on females.” But it was a joke, I’m kinda shocked people would actually do that.

Odd man out

@jp Hi! Missed your acerbic wit. I hate to tell you this, but girls that age do it all the time. Guys do too to some extent. There is a whole complex set of rules. Usually, the whole problem could be avoided if the young people would be open about their feelings. That, however, is usually the last thing they do—instead agonizing in silence. I do not miss being a teen.

Go for it. I did and now I have a really great boyfriend. I have never really cared if any of my girlfriends liked someone I did. Turned out some of the guys were pretty shitty and I was the one who had to deal with them.

Move on. First of all, friends come first. This is only going to get messy if one of you starts to date him. Second, let’s face it, if you’re young then this probably isn’t going to last anyway, no matter who he picks. My friends and I have used the same saying since eighth grade: Sisters before misters (none of that “ho” shit and while it might be kind of lame you get the point).
If one of you does decide to date him then when the couple breaks up I hope the other two are there to console her. If you’re a best friend you’re allowed to be a bitch and say “I told you so.” I know that’s what my friends would do to me and vice versa.

@Allie I agree with all of that, but I think there is an exception when she knew him and liked him first. Then she introduced her friends who now announce they like him? They are the ones who need to back off, I think.

Get out more! Jesus christ! meet other people!!! there is no reason for three girls who are friends with each other to all have a crush on one boy – do you live under a rock and he’s the only boy you’ve ever seen?

Sorry if that came off really harsh, but it sounded like you need a reality check!

i didn’t read the other posts, so i dunno if someone already said that

Who met him first? You so you call dibs!

he’s a human being – not the last cookie, emdean (and Marina – shame on you!).

if a man “called dibs” on me, i would tell him to take his dibs and put them where the sun don’t shine. the idea is repulsive. i’m with johnpowell.

@Marina I don’t think that makes a difference at all. If there’s another girl out there who liked him first what then? It’s all quite ridiculous in my opinion. All three of the girls should just forget about it and move on. Laugh about it later. I also agree with @La_chica_gomela here. He’s a person! People aren’t something you call dibs on. It’s not the front seat in the car or the window seat in a plane.

By the way, what’s with this game playing on his part: “Oh, I like all three of you too!”

Apache chain saw
wrestling. Texas cage-match style.

Ladies, you are right. These are teens though. Of course, you can’t “have dibs” on another person.

I do, however, think it is a sorry friend who says she likes the guy that I like and that I then introduced her to—because she was my friend and I wanted her to meet him. A good friend would at least give her first shot at building a relationship with him. If he’s not interested, then she can shrug and move on.

Well i just wanted to say thankyou all for your help. I got a few of different opinions on the problem and thats excactly what i desired. You all helped me out alot. Just for the record for you all I am 17. I guess you could say that Im young but I still want what everyone else wants. This boy is in college so I dont no if that means he is more mature or what. Its hard to tell with him sometimes.

and @johnpowell, I dont have a boyfriend. I did at one point point but we broke up.

@la_chica_gomela Settle down i was saying that in a joking manor, friends should talk to eachother about these things bottom line they will understand if she chooses to date this guy