Do you have a personal Fluther etiquette?

-i just have etiquette in general
-no
-no and no
-ignore them completely
-the post has to be worth it.. or make me laugh
-i enjoy a good debate
-i behave like i do in real life, why? because that’s who i am i guess.. no reason to change for Fluther

The only times I flat out ignore a question due to the asker is if I’ve already decided that the asker is a troll. I tend to follow most questions I’ve answered, but not to make sure I have more input than others. I am generous with my lurve for GAs, less so for GQs. I love a hearty debate. Like NaturalMineral, I am pretty much exactly as I am in the ‘real’ world.

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I have personal standards that I try to follow here on Fluther but I don’t know if I’d label them as etiquette really. In the relatively few months that I’ve been a part of Fluther, I haven’t found anyone I dislike yet and I hope that doesn’t happen.

If I see a question that I know the answer to or would like to offer some of my own thoughts, and the person asking is not a favorite of mine, I could still see myself posting a response if I think that I’m not going to have any residual problems later on. Since this hasn’t happened yet, I’m only speculating. If I did folow through with this and had unfavorable results, chances are I wouldn’t do it again.

When I post a question, I’m usually much more interested in watching the discussion in how others respond as opposed to what I can inject to keep it going. I’ve been lucky in the fact that many of the answerers to my questions stay on topic. I do like to get in there and offer some material of my own sometimes but not really often. I am very comfortable and pleased with the excellent moderators on Fluther and they do such a nice job that I rarely, if ever, see a need to moderate my own questions in any way.

If I see a troll or perceived troll activity, it makes better sense to me to avoid the activity rather than join in and possibly perpetuate a deteriorating situation. If I see activity that violates TOS or is offensive or hurtful, I won’t mind flagging it because first, it’s the right thing to do I think, and secondly, it’s kind of like doing my own individual part in helping to keep Fluther an interesting, pleasant, and inviting forum.

I’ve always been a generous lurve giver. So many people give so many great answers and opinions that it is just natural for me to want to show my appreciation for that. Whether it be lurve for members knowledge, humor, compassion, opinions, experiences, or whatever else, they’ve taken the time to share with all of us here and I feel that is certainly worth my lurve and my gratitude.

I will readily admit that I’m not a great debater so I’m not prone to joining in on discussions that could be contentious or heated or argumentative even. In cases like that, I am more the type to read all the responses because I’m intrigued by all the give and take only.

I’m sorry my answer to your question was so long. I just wanted to be thorough.

I conduct myself in whatever way best suits my own interests.

There really isn’t anyone I dislike on Fluther, just people with divergent points of view or personal styles. Some people are more communicative than others, and I enjoy understanding perspectives different than mine. On rare occasions I lose patience, and stop following questions. I like the constant reinforcement that there are other realities out there that are very different from my own. I feel that knowledge keeps me from becoming complacent, and in general makes me a better person.

I’m here to answer questions and provide a different point of view. If I can’t contribute to the discussion, I don’t. I don’t get put off if a person I don’t like is replying in the thread – I don’t have time to track, let alone care, about these mini grudges. I certainly don’t hang over discussions I participate in, with my fingers ready to type out a reply comment; I actually dislike it when people reply to (and debate with) every single post in their thread because it really halts the natural flow of the conversation.

I give lurve where I feel it’s needed, but not to anyone who begs for it, nor anyone who whines about getting no lurve.

Other than that, I act the way I’d like to be treated. Golden rule never fails.

What he (bluefreedom) said.

(I am not a fast typist so I tend to give short answers unless the question really warrants a longer one.)

As you all know, I have no standards. I have no etiquette. I have very few morals. I lurve as the mood suggests I should. I love trolls. They move me to say things I would otherwise not. I never shy away from a contentious situation. In general i behave poorly on Fluther just like I do in real life.

I just try to remember that I’m talking to real, multi-dimensioned people here.

Communicating with others through a medium like Fluther gives us an interesting but limited perspective. It’s like looking at someone through a peephole; you only see a little tiny bit of the person at a time. You then try to imagine what the whole person is like based on that tiny peek. Chances are, you’ll make some gross errors in those inferences. Over time, you’ll get more and more peeks and eventually a more accurate picture of the whole person will emerge.

Keeping that in mind, I try to refrain from assuming that I can draw sweeping conclusions about someone based on a few of their quips. That keeps me from over-reacting to quips that rub me the wrong way. Someone’s point of view on a particular matter may differ radically from mine, but there’s a lot more to both of us than that point of contention. I’ve discovered that there are people here who are on opposite sides of the political or religious divide from me, but with whom I can connect really well on other levels.

So, unless a user is obviously trying to stir up trouble (in which case I just flag and ignore), my policy is to cut people slack and try to get to know them better.

I am nice to everyone. At first.

I, try, not, to, overuse!!! The..punctuation?

Not really. I think I use pretty much the same etiquette on any discussion site I’m on. Even if you’re asking if I have personal online etiquette, I would say no. Perhaps you are wondering if people behave differently here than they do on, say, MySpace or FaceBook or Twitter or on a blog of any kind. Even then, I’d say I treat every online presence the same.

I try to be polite and own up to everything I put up here and how it effects everyone.

Some people like punctuation, some don’t, some spell-check, some don’t, some like bold, some don’t, some rant, some don’t, some flame, some don’t, some people talk with their hands, some don’t…
Live and let live, I say. Variety is the spice of life.
I do think that many people take offense all too easily.

what is a fluther troll?

1. Check to see if a question has been asked recently before I ask it myself.
2. If someone else is answering a question, I’ll generally wait until they are done before I answer.
3. Make sure there are legitimate answers before I give a quip answer
4. GA someone if someone answered how I was going to answer, rather than repeating what they’ve already said.

@phoenyx Just did it – #4.

@augustlan What is GA and GQ if you don’t mind me asking?

@rowenaz I agree, I don’t know what a fluther troll is either!

@Kayak8:

GA- Great Answer
GQ – Great Question

Troll (Fluther or other internet sites):

An individual who regularly posts specious arguments, flames or personal attacks to a newsgroup, discussion list, or in email for no other purpose than to annoy someone or disrupt a discussion. Trolls are recognizable by the fact that the have no real interest in learning about the topic at hand – they simply want to utter flame bait. Like the ugly creatures they are named after, they exhibit no redeeming characteristics, and as such, they are recognized as a lower form of life on the net, as in, “Oh, ignore him, he’s just a troll.”

@Bluefreedom Thanks very much, that clears up quite a few things!

@Kayak8. You’re welcome. Have a great weekend. =)

Do you ignore certain questions that you may know the answer to/have an opinion on if it has been posted by a person you dislike?
Yes. This just happened today. A dick asked a question I knew the answer to. It was computer related.

When you’ve posted a question, is the ensuing discussion a little like your baby? Do you feel the need to moderate it to an extent and make sure you have more input than anyone else?
No

How do you respond to trolls? Argue with them, flag them, ignore them?
I ignore. it hurts to not get attention when that is what you seek.

Are you a generous Lurve giver or do you only give it out when you really feel someone has earned it?
I lurve anything that walks.

Do you avoid contentious discussions or do you enjoy a good debate?
I try to avoid them. I don’t want to fight. Well, I would fight if winning got me a burrito from Chipotle.

In general, how do you behave on fluther and why?
I’m pretty much myself. I would hope people would see me as the underweight teddy bear I am. But I can be a total dick. And I will attack you if you fuck with my friends. And I will attack my friends if they say stupid shit. I guess I will just attack any stupid shit.

At least I have the balls to admit when I am wrong and apologize for it.

Do you ignore certain questions that you may know the answer to/have an opinion on if it has been posted by a person you dislike? No, I don’t do that. If I have an answer I give it regardless of the person asking it or anyone answering it.

When you’ve posted a question, is the ensuing discussion a little like your baby? Do you feel the need to moderate it to an extent and make sure you have more input than anyone else? No, I don’t make sure I have more input than anyone else.

How do you respond to trolls? Argue with them, flag them, ignore them? I never argue with trolls. And I don’t generally argue with anyone. Only if someone personally attacks me, my family or my friends. I am a people person to the max! I love conversations with friends.

Are you a generous Lurve giver or do you only give it out when you really feel someone has earned it? I Lurve giving Lurve to other, and I am pretty generous with it! I say if you took the time to answer my question that deserves lurve and I try to give lurve to everyone on the thread of the question I answered. Lurve is a good thing. So I share it.

Do you avoid contentious discussions or do you enjoy a good debate? I avoid any type of arguements and don’t answer questions that might strike up an arguement and I don’t ask questions that will spark an arguement. I’m a friendly person and like friendly conversations!

In general, how do you behave on fluther and why? I try to treat others as I would like to be treated. I am a genuine friend to others if they are a genuine friend to me. I don’t like butting heads or any form of fighting! I’m a lover not a fighter I’m very excepting of other people. I do not judge anyone by someone elses’s opinion of them. If someone don’t like me that is fine. It don’t mean I will not like them back. If someone don’t like me then they should just steer clear of me cause even if they don’t like me I will continue to be friendly to them in comments and questions. I do not like to argue and will avoid it at all cost!

Do you ignore certain questions that you may know the answer to/have an opinion on if it has been posted by a person you dislike? Yes.

When you’ve posted a question, is the ensuing discussion a little like your baby? Do you feel the need to moderate it to an extent and make sure you have more input than anyone else? If I’m around. Time dif means not always possible.

How do you respond to trolls? Argue with them, flag them, ignore them? The latter.

Are you a generous Lurve giver or do you only give it out when you really feel someone has earned it? The former.

Do you avoid contentious discussions or do you enjoy a good debate? Depends on the subject.

In general, how do you behave on fluther and why? Depends on my mood swings.