Should I call a man I've been on a few dates with tonight?

Don’t call him again. Let him come to you.

If it was me, I would like to at least say that I would have preferred an honest, “This isn’t working for me” to silence.

On the other hand, a week and a half is not that long—especially for a casual dating relationship.

I’d give it one more shot. If nothing comes of it, move on.

It’s easier for him to stop calling than to try to explain that he doesn’t like you. Let him go.

Don’t settle for a guy who doesn’t care enough to try.

Some men are just stupid. It took me a while to realize this. Might want to make sure that he knows what he’s doing before assuming he’s blowing you off.

speaking from a man’s point of view, here is what i hear around the office where the majority is, well, men:

“yeah, i’ll call her—maybe tomorrow or thursday.”

and for some reason, we play that “hold on, i’ll be right back” game because we don’t want to come off “hyper” for you. that seems too much like love. now, me? i have always been a different animal when it comes to women: if i like you and i’m attracted to you, there is no game-playing. i’m calling you as soon as possible, but that’s just me.

oftentimes, it ends up in marriage.

call him. do it.

Just call, games are annoying.

Interesting and opposing advice. The thing is it seemed like he was really liking me, thus the silence a little more surprising. However, he is divorce but conflicted about getting back together with his wife. Still as Marina says, I’d like to at least have one more, “couldn’t you have bothered to tell me” moment. He doesn’t have to explain why he’s moving on, but mentioning it would be common courtesy, wouldn’t it? I guess my wayward hope is that he hasn’t decided and I’ll still hear from him (despite the fact that I think that’s unlikely). Thus, the when to call (or write) question.

@lilakess…..EEEEEEEEEEEEEEKKKKKKK!!! Conflicted about getting back together with his (ex?)wife or separated wife? Dangerous territory – either way, he’s probably not going to be really that read to seriously date! I know you say it’s casual, but in that situation, be very careful. That would have been—when I found out that information—said that dating was off the table – for now. He needs to figure that out, before dating someone. It’s tough on both parties. He might be feeling guilt, if he’s kinds into you – and still has to figure out if he wants to reconcile with his wife.

How long has he been separated?

@lilakess I think you might find the wisdom in this thread useful. There was another one in the last few days on the issue of dating someone recently divorced too, but I can’t find it.

If he was conflicted about his ex wife then I don’t think I would spend one more minute wondering about him. It might take him a long time to figure out what he wants and do you really want to invest time and effort into someone that may or may not get back with his ex wife?

@cak he’s been divorced for about a year, but he’s definitely conflicted. They currently live in separate states because he got a job down here (not the reason) they split. But frankly, the reason they split is she wasn’t willing to address the problems he felt like existed, but still a lot of emotion there.

Thinking I will just let it go convinced by @chyna, I think.

No, you’ve done your job, now let him take the robes in hands.
It’s his turn to show his interest. Wait as long as you have to. You never want to run behind a man, you want the man to run after you..

How much effort is it to call him once more? Is he worth expending that tiny little amount of effort on?

Call again, but don’t let him see “42 new messages”.