What should I do?
I love my boyfriend more than anything but since before the new year,he hasn’t had a job.I’ve helping him fill out applications online and all that but there’s only so much that I can do.Valentine’s day is on saturday and we pretty much cancelled it because of the situation.I know it’s not a major holiday but I would’ve like to celebrate it at least a little this year.So,what should I do?
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You need to be more specific. Is he doing follow-up calls to schedule interviews? Going on interviews? Lounging on the couch all day? How old is he?
Another WOWwidow? These games can be very addictive. There are actually support groups for individuals and couples with this problem. Try some of the advice on this link http://www.wikihow.com/Break-a-World-of-Warcraft-Addiction
It is really hard to break away from the game world for many because they have things in real life that are too troubling to face. I cannot speculate what they could be in your boyfriend’s case, but I would certainly sit him down and try and pinpoint the issues that may be behind this ‘addiction’.
Make dinner for him. Create a card about why you love him and support him in this difficult time.
Create an indoor picnic if it is winter where you are. Make it very romantic.
Wait. Where did Warcraft or the ages of 19 and 22 get mentioned?
the question has been edited. It originally said he was addicted to a video game ( I used wow as an example since it is most common game with this issue).
Ah HAH. That makes more sense. Thank you @thegary.
I, personally, would never date a man who played that game. If I were dating someone and he started, I would threaten to leave if he kept it up. If you’re making that much of an effort to get him a job, and he’s spending all of his time, energy, and money on a game… it honestly isn’t worth your time.
Make him lay off the games a bit as a valentines present to you, perhaps?
@delirium: Would you threaten to leave even if he wasn’t addicted, and it didn’t take away from your time together? Say, he played in his off time when you were unavailable, and shut it off the instant you walked in the room or called?
There are potential exceptions, but after seeing what its done to a few of my friends I tend to react to it the same way that I would smoking. It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t do it around me, and isn’t officially addicted… I still mind.
(I, in general, tend to not be attracted to gamers, so I haven’t had this problem.)
I’ve been answering edited questions? Screw that!
There are plenty of cheap things you can do for Valentine’s day. You don’t need much money to cook something yummy from scratch, or to give each other massages, or do something goofy like make big chocolate sundaes for each other. It’s being together that counts, not the price tag.
a dozen handmade paper roses with a homemade card.(include coupons for favors)
Is he making a serious effort to find a job? (Be honest. You know the answer to this one, even if you don’t want to admit it.)
If the answer is yes—do something cheap but romantic. A picnic dinner by candlelight in the living room, a long walk along the edge of a local body of water, followed by coming home to hot chocolate and snuggling on the couch.
If the answer is no—dump him, before Valentine’s Day if at all possible. Life’s too short to support someone who’s unwilling to support himself.
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