How can I choose an appropriate hotel / bed & breakfast?

I have decided on a romantic weekend in the mountains in Asheville, NC as my boyfriend’s Valentine’s Day present. I have never been there, and I am in the process of selecting a place for us to stay.

If you are familiar with Asheville or are generally experienced in selecting great hotels, please advise!

Should we stay at a bed and breakfast or a hotel? Which places look the best?

I am looking for:
– something around $150–175 per night
– enjoyable amenities
– somewhat romantic atmosphere
– located in the heart of fun things to do
– enough privacy
– a place where we will not feel like we are intruding on someone’s home