How do you deal with people that upset you?

I always shoot straight so usually people know beforehand that I will be fair and payback WILL be a bitch.

@Johnny_Rambo You’re a great new addition to fluther. Welcome!

Well, if it’s just a ‘life isn’t fair’ situation, I pitch my little fit and get over it. Not much else to do, is there?

If someone has genuinely hurt my feelings, and they matter to me in any way, I tell them so. I explain why I feel the way I do. Sometimes I receive an apology, sometimes I don’t. Then I have to decide how much it matters to me, and whether the relationship can survive it. Tough choice sometimes.

Even though the temptation might be strong to strike right back at someone who has upset me, I feel like if I lower myself to their level and behave the way they did, I ultimately won’t accomplish anything.

I would prefer to pull the person aside and try to amicably resolve whatever the current problem was between us. If I can’t resolve the issue right away, I’ll be the better person and walk away outright and then revisit the situation later, if it is important enough to do so, and make one last attempt to work things out.

If someone isn’t willing to be civil and act appropriately, they don’t get a third chance or any more of my time. That seems fair to me.

@augustlan Thanks! :)

I’ll pitch my fit and go to bed!

Fuck em. Who needs jerks?
I try to occupy myself with happy things. :)

Thanks jonsblond, I will try to live up to that assessment.It isnt easy being me, but im all ive got. ( :

This question stems from something very recent, but it does pertain to my life in general. I hate conflict and have always had a hard time dealing with it. So maybe something good came out of this? Thank you everyone!

I usually try to say something sarcastic so that they know they’re doing something jerkoffish. People are so self-centered that most of the time they have no clue they’re being a jerk, so it always makes me feel good when I attempt to make them realize what they’re doing.

Quiet revenge. I’ll spike their drink with one of my own boogers or something gross like that.

Remind me not to piss you off Buster. Boogers and beer ? (:

@queenzboulevard lurve for jerkoffish

If it’s my mother, I blow up on her.
Anyone else, take it with a grain of salt and try to act maturely- in other words, don’t blow up but brush it off and trust that they’ll get theirs haha.

I just try to ignore them as much as I can because Im not good at hiding my feelings and if I run into them booooyyy there will be blood

I eat them.
“Mmm. Jerky.”

Channeling JackAdams:

Assasination is always an option.

Well. Bloodshed and violence are wonderful options. You can also throw things. And then say, Life is a gamble, sometimes you come out on the winning side, sometimes you don’t,

Depends. Usually, I figure it’s their problem. If it’s someone I am close to or have continuing contact with, I will probably ask them what’s going on with them and talk it through. If it’s someone who is just plain mean-spirited and/or disturbed, no matter how close a relation, I use the philosophy that the door is open, but they have to wipe their feet before they come in and not use me as a doormat. The best revenge is releasing the slight and getting happy, living fuly.

@LindaDT “L” U for that.
Great answer!
I always speak my peace. Do it kindly and softly.
This way the offending party is made aware, what they choose to do with it is up to them.
“everyone is good, some just need a little more reminding” ;)

You can only get upset with someone if you care.

who pissed you off baby? Let me at ‘em…let me at ‘em

I have a serious problem with this.

Mentally I know all the “right” ways to handle it.

Emotionally, and I have been dealing with this forever now, it eats me up inside.

I like what you said Blondesjon, I just have to learn not to.

I remind myself that I’m not perfect, either.

I have an entire collection of voodoo dolls in my cellar for just such an occasion. Give me a voodoo doll, a few very large fish hooks and a mini butane torch, and I exact the most delicious revenge. It must work, the people the pissed me off all have limps and really disturbing nervous tics.