Married folks: what don't you do much anymore?

I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about . . .

. . . relationships that went bad,

. . . relationships that might have been

. . . whatever romantic relationship I am in (analyzing same to death every single day).

. . . whether I will have a date for the upcoming (insert appropriate holiday):
New Year’s Eve, Valentine’s Day, the annual Super Bowl party, etc.

. . . whether I will have a date for an upcoming important social event:
my best friend’s wedding, my reunion, a friend’s engagement party, etc., ad nauseum.

. . . wondering why he didn’t call.

. . . thinking about why I need to break up with him.

Go to movies,
out to dinner,
have sex,
see MY family

I don’t think I’ve golfed since I started dating my wife.

Sleep with other people. ;)
Cook, thankfully.

Starve
Get the “pink” notice from the utility companies
Throw parties (now it’s once a year or so)
Have more than 15” of bed space
Skip holidays

Because we’re just tired.

I’m not exactly married, but the only differnece is the legal ceremony and the paperwork. We’ve been together for 7 years now.

The thing I think I miss the most is the quiet time to read, or just be alone with my thoughts. I got a book that I am very interested in back in August, and so far, I’m only on page 27…ugh!!!

I really miss my quiet time!!

@scamp Yea, between work, the kids, weekly movie releases, the wife’s TV shows (that I seemingly have to watch David Caruso’s a joke), her constant “projects” and honey-do lists, and my addiction to video games & the internet it takes me about a year to finish a book. I get my quiet, “me time” from 10pm to 12am-ish every night.

long for the autumn days when we could just lie around naked all day under the covers, smell the comforting first fumes of natural gas heat from the furnace and watch movies and pig out on snacks and food and popcorn with hot sauce.

@Sakata I work second shift, so I don’t get home until 10:00 pm, and go to bed around midnight. He insists I go when he does (because he ‘can’t sleep without mommy’, ha ha!!) I work on saturdays, and the only day I have to myself is Tuesday, but I use that time to spend the day on the phone with my daughter who is 1000 miles away. We watch movies online together, and just kind of hang out on the phone all day.

She keeps asking me if I finished the book yet, because it was a gift from her, and I have to remind her that the only quiet time I have is spent with her. thanks for telling me you have a similar problem. I thought I was the world’s slowest reader.. ha ha!!

be lonely
be afraid I am intolerable
feel lost in the world

those things are over because of him

I miss spending money on whatever I wanted without talking to someone about it. Now that we have a child, I miss all my free time, I used to paint for fun, but I haven’t picked up a brush in forever. But I wouldn’t trade any of it for what we have, I love my little family.

We have been together 10 years and do most everything together. We are leaving this week on a cross country journey to check out a new business we are considering buying. We are taking one dog and camping along the way, will cover a couple of thousand miles on the trip. This will be our third business acquisition and move, we are in mid to late 60’s. It is a great way to live, retirement would be too boring. So I don’t think we do less, I think we do about the same as I would do if I were alone.

My music.

Spend Sunday mornings cuddling in bed for an hour or so

Spend time dividing up household expenses so we could each pay “our fair share”

Laundry, I will do anything around the house including clearing blocked up sewer lines but I hate to do laundry.
For my wife, it’s almost a hobby.
SRM

I miss sleeping past 6am
I miss getting off work on the late shift and driving to the beach and walking it alone at night.
I miss quiet time with my spouse.
I miss driving my mustang cobra (still have it but don’t take it out as much as kids are not allowed near it)
Being able to actually think or concentrate on a project without the chaos

What is better:
The sex- even after 10 years it is like we are newlyweds
Having your best friend to tell anything to close at hand
The kids make sure life is never dull at home.
Going out- when we do is a bigger blast than when I was single

f**king young women

plays, opera, symphony, dance, drumming circles, camping in strange places, parties with our friends, football all day Sunday, pot, vacations in Europe….sex

But you know what? It’s all worth it! though I would like a little more nookie

In my first marriage, I gave up a lot. I figured that’s just the way it was with marriage, you know? In fact, when we divorced I said I’d never get married again. I was tired of compromising, and marriage is full of compromise. Well, lucky me…I was wrong! In my second marriage I haven’t had to give up much of anything, and feel I’ve only gained something. I mean, there are compromises, but they are minor (pizza tonight or Chinese food? lunch with your mother or stay home? I watch the Military Channel with him, and he watches Jeopardy with me). I haven’t had to change my habits or my personality one bit. For that, I am eternally grateful.

This might sound shallow but I miss buying things for myself.
When you first get married and buy a house. You buy for the house. When you have a baby. You buy for the baby.
The baby gets older you buy for your child. If you have a little more money left over you buy for your husband.
I don’t remember the last time
I bought something for myself.