How can i be more of a people person?

Hm, just learn how to get people to talk about themselves most of the time and you will make lots of friends. Look up on the internet how to build rapport or even go to libraries or book stores and you can probably find a lot of info on how to improve this skill.

You can also try joining a few clubs or even take up a hobby or sport, that way you can practice your conversation skills with others that share your interests.

Practice, practice, practice. In the meantime, when you need advice ask us :)

You’re probably looking to improve or learn IPC skills I’m guessing? That is Inter-Personal Communication and socializing is going to be a sure fire way to overcome doubts or concerns regarding this.

I think getting face time with people is better than learning how to communicate through directions in books, in my opinion. But, that certainly doesn’t mean you can’t get pointers from reference material so don’t completely rule that out. The more you do it, the easier it is going to get and the more comfortable you’re going to feel.

And definitely take @augustlan‘s advice to heart. She is wise beyond her years. :o)

Zoloft can make you a people person…

See it this way though, no people, no disappointments.

Just throwing it out there.

Sing in public…....you will never be shy again.

The only way to become a skydiver is to jump out of the plane. The only way to become an experienced skydiver is to keep doing it.

“If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you…”

@cheebdragon nonsense, there’s a reserve chute xD

“You only need a parachute to skydive twice.”

RELAX.
Be yourself and don’t try to overly impress anyone, but reach out and put forth some effort to find some people with similar tastes as yours. Join a club if you have to or start a band.

Humor and integrity go along way in this department. Look people in the eyes and dont give limp handshakes when meeting someone for the first time. Dont be a dick.

It sounds like you should act out sexually. Everyone likes a whore temporarily.

Just don’t make the mistake of being so desperate for a friend that you THINK someone is your friend when they’re not. Be careful who you trust with your “inner feelings”, ESPECIALLY co-workers or anyone in any sort of a competition with you.

If you’re not opposed to a drink or two, a neighborhood bar is a great place to find good non-judgemental conversation. Find some of the older folks to talk to, ask them about their lives, now then sit back and enjoy a pint and learn!
And soon you’ll be ready to teach grasshopper. ;)

If you want to become a real person give away everything that you own. Volunteer your time to a non-profit organization that is far from your home.

Get a part-time job at somewhere where the employees are in your general age range. It especially helps if it is located out of your neighborhood so you can start on a completely clean slate and be who you want to be not who you’ve been perceived as thus far.

Some of these answers are a little flip. I remember you asking for advice about your baby that’s coming, and your boyfriend who doesn’t want to help. I suggest seeking out a lot of nice people who are interested in babies!! and young mothers!! – support groups and learning opportunities (you’ll need them). Go get information you’ll need. It will put you in contact with other people who are looking for the same thing. You’ll have a lot to discuss, and some of those people will turn out to be nice.

I don’t advocate going to the bar in your condition. Sorry.

Echo GAMBIT’s advice. I’m also a single-child, am pretty introverted but like socialising too and find I want to get better with people, for business and funsies. Got roped into this charity committee that forced me to work with a bunch of well-meaning people as well as reaching out towards our event and fundraising aims.

Also don’t turn down social invites, looking back I’m surprised at how much of a hermit I really was by choice. Just say ‘yes’ to everything and you’d be surprised.

@susanc. Hey where did you get bit about the BF and a baby coming? Was that from a previous question? I didn’t see that in the question as posted. If that is the case, I second your advise.
Don’t listen to me enjonel
i’m just trying to get intelligent good looking women into frequenting bars more often ;)

@Bagardbilla: no, I just remembered it. Concerned. Aside from this backstory, your advice would be terrific, in fact I can use it myself.

Getting over shyness is probably the very first thing you’d have to do. I’ve never been a shy person, so I’m guessing here, but I would think that if you take @Johnny_Rambo‘s advice and karaoke or take an improv class – that might help.

I would say, start slowly. It’s hard to approach someone and immediately strike up a conversation, especially if you’re not used to doing it.

Start off by approaching someone and complimenting them, but be honest! If you like someone’s shirt, just walk up and tell them that you do. It’s quick and painless – and what’s the worst that can happen? Plus it’ll really make that person’s day. Who knows, they might start a conversation with you.

Learn to listen.

I’m not sure if this is something you can ‘do’ but ever since I’ve become really good friends with this one person who’s really gregarious we end up going out all the time and being with her group that’s socially active when I wouldn’t do it myself. Going out with someone friendly/crazy is nice too because they’re great at introducing you to people.