I lived in Paris for 7+ years. I didn’t go there with the intention of staying, but I met my wife-to-be, was married within 3 months, and just got swept up in the new life.
This was a transformative experience for me on many levels. Negotiating a foreign culture as a tourist, or even a student, is one thing; but when you have to penetrate the vagaries of the system to get a work permit, find a job, lease an apartment, buy furniture, register a birth, and on and on, that’s when you really drink the glass down to the dregs.
There was the language ordeal, of course (I spoke next to no French before going). Finding oneself with the vocabulary of a child again is humiliating in the extreme. This was strong motivation for me to flesh out my French as quickly as possible, but the French are famously unforgiving of misuse of their language, and it took a couple of years before I no longer felt like a laughingstock. Now, I’m extremely conscious of how non-native English speakers here in the States are treated by us native speakers. I know what that’s like.
The real trial by fire was my attempt to get a resident’s visa and work permit. What a dehumanizing ordeal! The process there, like here, is designed to be nearly impossible. Even with my wife’s French citizenship in my favor, I was put through every imaginable bureaucratic hoop, including having my file “lost” 4 times and having to recommence the process. I have no idea how many days I spent in this line and that line to get this document and that document. Again, I’m now super-sensitive to the plight of anyone having to navigate the nightmare of our own immigration system.
Finally allowed to work, and comfortable with the language, it was pretty easy for me to assimilate into the working world. I worked in various pastry kitchens, staffed mostly with young French guys and a few Arab and African “grunt” workers. It never ceased to amaze me how the French guys would rail against “the immigrants” to me, of all people.
I wouldn’t trade that education for anything. I think everyone should be so lucky as to live away from the comfort and reassurance of the familiar at some point in their lives.