If you liked a guy and he was you ex-boyfriend's friend, what would you do?

Why does your ex-boyfriend’s opinion matter?

Oh boy. This is a sticky situation. It really depends on if you and your ex had a clean break and are still friends, or had a messy break or simply don’t want to be around each other.

If it was a clean break, and you two don’t feel awkward around each other, than I see no reason not to pursue the friend. Just realize that while it may not be awkward now, it may become so in the future.

If it wasn’t a clean break, and you two don’t want to be around each other, this is where it gets tricky.

Do you want drama in your life? Then please get on the Drama Llama and hang on for a ride. Pursue your ex’s friend. It will probably cause conflict and strained relations between either you and the friend, you and your ex, or your ex and your friend.

Do you want to have a sane, calm, drama-free life? Then do not pursue the friend. Your friend is your ex’s friend first (bros before hoes, as they say), and you dating him would force you and your ex to be in some really awkward situations, which is not how one acts to have a calm and sane life. You will find another love beyond this friend. There are many people in the world you can love and who can love you back.

Bottom line, there are no guarantees in life. You can choose to follow your heart, or follow your gut, or follow your brain. You might as well get used to the three sending you different messages though, it occurs a lot throughout other elements of life too.

I would realize that I’m not ready for a real relationship and let both boys off the hook until I was more mature.

my ex is my friend, but he found out and now im afraid that the guy I like won’t like me.

Stay away from this situation it will only cause DRAMA!
Now if you know that this X’s friend is the ONE then thats another story. There are plenty of men out there.

What does the ex say? Is he cool with it? As far as the other guy, you won’t know if you don’t try.

I think there was another question like this recently. Well I couldn’t find the one I wanted to, but here’s a couple that might be useful:

In fact, several.
would-you-date-your-exs-best-friend
would-you-date-the-person-a-long-term-boyfriend-cheated-on-you

I agree with Emdean1, there are alot of people out there. Dating your ex’s friend will hit home with your ex in some kind of way whether he admits it or not. Drama causes unneeded stress on everyone.

Forget the drama and move on. What difference does it make what your ex thinks anyway!

How long has it been since the breakup? If it’s been quite a while, I don’t think it matters too much. If it’s pretty recent, it could look like you broke up just to date the friend.

it’s not the fact that you would be fucking up your relationship with your ex but that if you date his friend their friendship will be fucked. It really depends on how good of friends they are, if he will date you then they weren’t good friends in the first place but thats not your fault.

Let them deal with the “guy code”. If he is worried about his friendship, he should have the sense to deal with it or say no to you.

Neither one. I think you should take a closer look at that cute but nerdy guy in home room. You know which one I mean. He’d make a much better boyfriend than either of the other two.

I broke up with my ex 2 years ago

Then the statute of limitations has expired on friends being off limits.

If it was someone I really liked and he , liked me back I would go for it. If I kind of liked him and he didnt like me I would move on.