Did you call your mother today?

i’m about to call my mama right now!

my wife always asks me this question. i feel so bad when i haven’t called mama. thank God for wives, who, well, are mothers too.

My mom and I talk pretty much every day. Especially since dad died. We only live 8 miles away from her, she checks in or I check on her. The kids talk to her all the time.

No stress, we have a decent relationship.

(I’m a daughter, not a son)

@cak good job! stay in touch with mom always! it’s just the right thing to do…

I talk to my dad more, but i occasionally talk to my mom. they’re not divorced or anything, so one tells the other what i said. mainly because my mom never answers the phone.

No, ha! I call her all the time though. It’s no biggie. We also chat online quite regularly. And e-mail.

My Mom is gone, but I talk to my daughter every single day for at least an hour. She lives 1000 miles away, and I miss her terribly!

When my Mom was still alive we talked pretty frequently with no guilt between calls.

I talked to her on MSN today. We talk every day and usually see each other at least once a week.

I love my mom so much. I cannot begin to articulate it, suffice to say it is the biggest love I have in my life so far. We never fight, we ask each other for help when needed, we are always there for each other. I love it and will be very sad when my mother is not with me anymore. So I cherish each and every day I can be with her.

I talk to my mom at least once a day. I call her mom but lately I’ve been calling her mommy again. We tend to have good conversations but we’re just different enough that we piss each other off a little more than we should, but we still have a pretty damn good relationship. We always get each other chocolates for Valentine’s Day. :)

I talk to my mom at least 4 times a week and see her once a week. She has lung cancer so we make sure one of us kids talk to her at least once a day.

I wish I could. Mom died in 2005. I miss her.

@KatawaGrey mommy? cute!

I don’t call or visit my mother enough and I live less than 10 miles away from her. My mother and I have always been close and she is an absolutey wonderful person. I’ve become very self-conscious and feeling guilty since I started answering this question. I’m off to call my mom right now.

Right off hand, I don’t have an adequate explanation why I don’t keep in touch often enough. Irregardless, there isn’t any good excuse why I can’t communicate with her on a more regular basis. I promise to do better.

just got off the phone with ma. she was happy to hear from me. i love my mama.

@bluefreedom: good job—make it happen! she’ll love you for it!

My sister and I talk to my mother several times a week, and one of us visits every 10 days or so. There is not much satisfaction due to her increasing dementia, but we tend to Doc’s appointments, filling the larder, med checks and the reminders to take a shower and see the podiatrist.

She is, sadly, not very interested in hanging around with us. Once we have performed the necessary services, she either shoos us out the door or hangs up. So we stay emotionally detached, dutiful and respectful.

I attempt to avoid my mother. It makes me feel not so horrible that way.

@gailcalled my grandmother, bless her soul, was very loving, but she’d have that same “ok, thank you very much—i’m done with you and your services—i love ya—but i’m done with your services.” it was just grandma. she died of pancreatic cancer three years ago and i can still hear her voice when she’d hang up the phone. “ok, talk to you later—click”

As a matter of fact, I have.

@AstroChuck great going bro! love the mama—you can’t go wrong!

@Chasco: At least you got the “love ya” and “ok, talk to you later.” My ma is well beyond that stage; I sometimes try to imagine what it would be like to have almost no short-term memory.

@gailcalled love the chasco moniker. only gail.

My parents never call me. It’s a constant topic of conversation between me and my wife. Why should I call them when they obviously don’t care about what’s going on with me? I visit every few months, out of guilt more than anything. But calling and talking to either of my parents would be torture. We have never been close, and it ain’t gonna happen anytime soon.

If my mother called me I wouldn’t answer the phone nor would I call her back.
If my mother knocked on my door I wouldn’t answer nor would I pretend I wasn’t home.
If my mother sent me a letter/card I wouldn’t open it nor would I even bring it in the house.
If my mother died I wouldn’t go to her funeral nor would I ask where she was buried.

@tinyfaery hmmmm, interesting. give her a call just for kicks and giggles. shocking, it will be, but i assure you, it will jumpstart your relationship.

When my daughter doesn’t call as often as I like, I call her and keep the conversation light-hearted and short. (I squeeze the “How are you”? in between a Milo anecdote and the weather.)

The bitterness I am reading about here obviously has very powerful roots. And I am envious of the really easy and loving relationships. We fall in between.

Edit; My daughter and I do very well. It is my mother who is difficult.

When my mom calls, her side of the conversation is usually all about the people that are out to get her. The neighbors are out to get her and will burn her house down if she leaves for a while. The furnace repair guy is out to screw her over for money by charging her too much and refusing to fix the furnace. The city cops are out to get her because they hate gays. The other neighbors hate gay people too. Her dad (my grandpa) has been out to get her since the custody battle over me when I was five. The grocery cashier is out to cheat her of money. The restaurants are out to get her because they make her food wrong and hate gays.

Of course, none of this is because she antagonizes the neighbor by calling the cops if their kids’ ball accidentally falls over the fence, and it’s not because she posts signs in her yard about the horrible cheating furnace guy, and it’s not because she makes a scene anywhere. Oh, no. They’re all out to get her.

There’s only so much of it I can take. Especially those special times when she thinks that I’m out to get her, too. I’m not. I’m just out to get away.

This line shows that not all moms are perfect. Some are, well, troubled. Sad….

@charlie Absolute TORTURE!

Saying that I still live with her, no, not by phone (That is what it seems like you are asking).

I have always had a difficult relationship (putting it very mildly) with my mother. It’s over now. She is alive and well, but completely out of my life.

My dad died in October.
Mom is alive and well.
I gave up on her in January.
The wrong parent is dead, I’m afraid.

I am away at college…I call my mum literally EVERY day. On the off chance I don’t, I immediately call her the next day.

My parents are both gone, but I called my mother faithfully every Sunday. My dad’s been gone so long that I don’t even remember how often I called him.

Now my son who is not at home calls me faithfully every Sunday, always ending with “I love you guys.” Once a week is enough. If he called me every day, I’d be worried.

@cprevite care to expound? that testimony sounds heavy…

Nope, but I did email her. We do that a lot now that she’s figured out her computer. Sometimes I just like to send her an “I love you!”.

I pretty much see my mom every day. We’ve become great friends now that I am older. She’ll come over and we go walking together. She also is over alot being Grandma to my daughter. I also like talking to my mother-in-law (I know, how unusual!), she’s great also, but I don’t talk to her every day, but at least once a week.

My family is spread out all over the world. My Mother lives about 200 miles from me. We don’t talk much, but I talk to my parents the most. Sometimes weekly, and sometimes every other week. We’ve never been a very touchy-feely family, and have never been very open with each other. No one really knows much about the others—at least as far as day to day details are concerned. Of course, we know a great deal about each other’s personalities.

@charliecompany34: Suffice to say, my father was a very nice man.

My mother is the opposite of nice.

One daughter called (several times) and the other text-messaged me today. Oldest has resume angst, youngest had a good job interview for summer employment, and is hopeful.

I would call my mom, but she has Alzheimer’s and it’s more productive to write her.

I like to call my mom every single day because hearing how delusional I may become someday makes me appreciate every day that I have left with my sanity.

I call my mother whenever I get a chance sometimes being a soldier can get pretty busy.

I’m like bluefreedom. My mother lives only 5 miles away, yet I don’t talk to her as much as I should. Three of her children live within 10 miles of her and we do our best to keep in touch. Quite often though, one of us will call the other because mom just went off on a guilt trip. If she doesn’t hear from us weekly, she feels very unloved and unwanted. My mother is a wonderful person, but she can be a bit controlling.

I’m the exception probably. I NEVER call her. She may sometimes call me when she wants something – no, not the moaning complaining “I need a man to put up that shelf” call; it’s more like “you forgot to do your taxes, so I’ll fax you the form and I want it signed by tomorrow”.

My mother is a very powerful businesswoman with no time to waste on trivial things such as family, affection, love and shit like that. For her words such as “romantic” and “artistic” are as bad as “communist” and “lazy bum”. She is very cunning and ambitious, and she’ll only call if there’s something in it for her. And we were never close enough for me to bother calling her.

I may call my dad about once a month if he hasn’t called first (he calls at least once a week, including this morning).

@Jack: :(

update: she just called to tell me to pick up a pair of trousers. I blame charlie’s post lol

I talk to my mom everyday via email.

We have a ritual of going to Barnes & Noble every Sunday, getting Starbucks, wandering around and talking. We have an amazing relationship.

I talk to my mom about 2 times a week, and as long as we don’t talk about anything too personal or about anything that may upset her…. we’re good!

I can just walk into the other room to see my mommy. No need to call :)

No, I did not call her but I do talk to her today.

Yes, I’ve talked to her twice today actually. We never go more than a day without talking.