How often do you fight with your SO? What are the fights like?

My ex and I didn’t fight at all, which made the fight which caused our break-up so friggin’ hard. Now I’m just looking for a SO to fight with…

The SO and I have the occasional outbreak. It’s never HORRIBLY BAD or anything like that. It’s just him thinking he is and will always be right. When it gets to the point where I can’t even say anything because it will just be wrong, I try and walk away. Usually he gets mad because of that.. And then we say our sorries, maybe have makeup sex, and just chill.

But then, there’s just certain things he says that bug me. We were in the store today and he was like do you want anything? I said no. He said, Are you sure? Cuz I don’t wanna get shit later on for not being able to read your mind. Seriously. There was no need for that.

Mostly with that stuff, I just try to let it go, but when he says stuff like that around people, I just wanna yell STFUUUUUU.

I would just stop talking and then he would throw notes at me. Usually, it was so cute, I would make up with him.

My SO and I never fight. We’ve been together 4 years now, with never a harsh word or disagreement.

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We do. It’s usually a pretty big, nasty, vivid, yet short explosion, followed by a rational discourse where we actually listen and explain things. It works for us. The anger is burned off in the immediate fray, and then we talk like human beings and solve the problem.

My ex and I used to fight all the time. He’d say something to purposely push my buttons and try to make me angry. I swear it seemed like he was just poking at me to try to make me mad like that was his goal, sometimes it worked.
As most people who know me well can tell you, I’m a joker, I like to have fun and laugh. When I poke fun at you it’s usually in jest and I don’t mean anything by it. Well, Mr. Ex didn’t have the same sense of humor I did and he used to get sooo mad at me if I said something he didn’t like. He’d shoot me this look and then I knew I’d gone too far. We’d usually fight about it later on.
All around, he wasn’t a good boyfriend.

The ex and I fought over the years. A few were huge, yelling, screaming, knock down drag out fights, most were civil-ish arguments. None of our fighting prepared me for the way we have fought since the start of our divorce proceeding. It is almost like the divorce has given us both a license to say everything we have held in all these years. Never with the kids around though – NEVER.

Our fights are like a bomb, a very hot fire burning in a very small place. We explode, then later, we explain what we were feeling, and we get it all straightened out. Two people with horrible tempers shouldn’t get along so well, but we have been together for almost thirty years, and married for going on twenty this March.

Never fight. Rarely a raised voice ( always mine), followed by sincere apology.

My wife and I don’t fight. We disagree and/or debate but that is as far as if goes. We’re both quick to apologize, whoever is in the wrong, and we have always communicated very well with each other.

For those times that a resolution wasn’t quickly forthcoming, any hard feelings that might have lingered never lasted more than 24 hours. Some good advice I got from someone was to never go to bed mad at each other and we’ve tried very hard not to ever do that. It has hardly ever happened.

I would say we have disagreements, not fights. We kind of just blurt out our points then go separate ways while we absorb everything. One of us always ends apologizing, and then we just discuss what happened and try to solve the issue. No big deal. I’d say we do this every few months.

We rarely fight. When we do, it starts small and builds up to

Me: What the fuck?

Him: What the fuck???

and then he stomps off to bed. I used to follow him and harangue him, but have learned to let him go. We discuss it the next day, very calmly. Apologies are given. All is good in the world.

@SuperMouse I had the same experience with my ex-husband! Our split was very amicable. The actual separation was anything but. Ugh, it was awful. Thank god we’re past all that now. For the most part…

Yes- we fight. As two fiercely independent people when tempers are lost it is not pretty.

It seems to me that every marriage requires work and part of the work is being understood and understanding your mate. Even though we have an overall fantastic marriage there are times we are driven to the point of separation.

But the thing is, once the thought really settles in and we both cool off, we realize that there is a lot more good than bad and we work on making it better. It is not easy. Nothing really worth having ever is. But the struggle and pain are worth it. Especially when we have grown closer and learned more about each other from the experience.

even when we do have a little disagreement, it’s usually unimportant.

the only major fights have to do with the children, where obviously each one’s child is more important. The typical fight involves me refusing to play “daddy” to her child when she misbehaves and letting her sort it out herself. The reverse is not so common, since my own daughter completely ignores my SO, so there’s never a conflict there. It is also the only real problem in our relationship down the line, and the reason we are no longer together, even though us adults get along. The children are in different countries at the moment anyway, and have different futures ahead of them.

they are increasing at the moment…but hopefully they will stop or at least go static and not send us spiralling into another break up…

they are intense and only ever trying to get to the truth

Never, as that would require an SO in the first place.

In the last year of our relationship, we had blowout fights about every three months, and recurring minor disagreements about once a month. It was always over the same things, and nothing was changing.

yes,we do have different opinions over a same issue at times.I, generrally write things on a small piece of paper to convey him that more we discuss more its going to hurt.So, we end up and sleep well.Telephonically i text something good off and on so that there iss a comfort level even if we are not physically present with each other.

We probably fight every couple of months. Always about the same thing. I think our biggest issue isn’t the fighting itself, it’s that we can overcome this one issue.