Divorced people, did you go back afterwards just to make sure?
This comes from another question about seeing someone separated but not yet completely divorced. About 6 months after we were divorced I ran into him at a party and he drove me home, leaving his date there. Well what happened, happened and we saw each other for a few weeks, then he moved back in. He was on his best behavior and it was like the honeymoon again.
For various reasons it didn’t last, but a lot of divorced friends have told me that rerun sex is pretty common. What do you think?
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I didn’t, but I know people who did. We called it ex-sex.
Oh, that. Yeah. A couple times.
What the hell was I thinking? I was pretty drunk one of the times, but the other…
I divorced my first wife in February of 1997 and I haven’t seen or heard from her since that time which is a very good thing. No going back was the only logical and best choice in my case. Having the spawn of Satan for an ex-wife puts a damper on the whole ex-sex thing.
My ex made my life a living hell. So, when he wanted to try it again I decided a little payback was in order. Yeah, the sex was ok, but the revenge later was wonderful!! I’ve been with my current hubbie for 20 years now.
@AstroChuck I think it usually starts with a drink and ends with “what was I thinking” but it happens. lol
No. I made sure I was sure before the breakup. And as for ex-sex? The prior- to- ex-sex wasn’t good-why would I go back for more?
@bluefreedom: the “spawn of Satan?”
@cdwccrn. Yes, unfortunately. She turned out to be evil and it ended up being a very difficult marriage.
@bluefreedom. why is my name red and yours stays blue?
@cdwccrn If you’re typing the whole thing, it is case sensitive (for some reason). To get around that, type @b and a list should pop up with user-names in this thread that start with ‘b’. Click on Bluefreedom’s name, and it’ll insert it for you.
@AugustLan does this work on iPhone?
@cdwccrn I’m not sure… I don’t have one. Ask AstroChuck, he should know.
@cdwccrn – You just need to change the B to a capital letter since the usernames are case sensitive:
@Bluefreedom
Same thing with Augustlan’s, you need to change the L to a lower case:
@augustlan
@cdwccrn. Thanks for the sentiments. Life is so much better now. :o)
Ugh god no. Once I don’t respect someone, there’s no chance they are touching me.
I guess it’s different if you went through an amicable divorce, but I didn’t.
@AstroChuck Way back when I did it there was no iPhone and I think you have to do it in person to get the full effect.
@AstroChuck I don’t get the dropdown list on my iPhone, I have to type the whole name.
No way. I’d never want to revisit that kind of hell. Never. It’s bad enough dealing with him on behalf of my daughter – I keep it civil, though.
No. The thought did not cross my mind for a single second. Once I knew the marriage was over I was DONE.
I thought she was asking about the highlighting. Sorry. The drop down list works on the iPhone but only if you’re on the regular site, not the iPhone version.
Depends on the relationship of course. Things would be different if .. say your ex became morbidly obese and refused to brush their teeth. I don’t think you’d be going for any reruns. But… then again.. love .. err .. sex knows no boundaries for some.
I didn’t have “ex-sex” with my ex-husband, but then again… he was horrible in bed! Haha.
<<<<< is feeling eve more insecure now in her relationship…. see this :-(
@lynneblundell So, who’s keeping the pics nearby… the guy you are seeing or the soon-to-be-ex-wife of the guy you are seeing? If it’s her, don’t be too discouraged. If it’s him, ask him “WTF?”.
It’s the wife of the guy that i’m seeing
Well, even if she is still hung up on him, it doesn’t mean he feels the same way… have the two of you talked about this?
kind of…he doesn’t know why its there and doesn’t think its a problem…I’m not even so sure that he really doesn’ think this is a problem? how can it not be an issuer…even if its not with him… oh…i don’t know
guess we should go and move back to my question and stop tkaing up room here sorry @galileogirl
No way. My ex pretends that he doesn’t even know me or my family. He saw my Dad walking out of the bank as he was walking in and the ex saw him then turned around and walked the other way. He simply went off the deep end after the divorce and even the thought of going back is sickening.
Read “Sex With Your Ex and 69 Other Things You Shouldn’t Do (and a few that you should)”. It explains EVERYTHING.
Never. Actually our relationship just got worse after we got separated (our actual divorce is still not out, even though it’s been almost 3 years now). There was one moment when she came to pick up her stuff (2 months after leaving) and she got a bit sentimental, but I think it may have been fake anyway. I did not fall for it, and I just said something like “well, I never wanted you to leave anyway, this was your choice”.
Having said all that, I tried so hard to make things work for the last year or so of our marriage, that I’m absolutely certain there was no way there was anything more that could be done. Whatever possibilities there were, I explored already. So closure came very fast after that.
A couple of years ago, I moved back in with my ex for 2 months,
(I needed a place to stay while relocating, and I own the house) but there is no way I would ever have sex with him again. I closed that door many years ago and threw the key away.
No matter how drunk I get, he will never again enter my bed. I’ll never be that desperate.
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