Would this annoy you or am I overreacting?

Also do you believe it is too soon to call someone baby? Isn’t that a little much?

To call someone baby, not really. The calling/texting all the time, yes. When my husband and I were dating he called every other day. Once we got a little more serious he called once a day. No text messages (I don’t even know if they had them back then).

If it bothers you, you may not be compatable. Some people like to rush into seriousness, and others take their time. It doesn’t make him bad, just maybe different from you.

Considering you had another stalker/overly possessive type only a month ago; I might do a spot check on the kind of vibe you’re sending out.

MIssjena: You feel what you feel. Trust that and act accordingly.

What gailcalled said

Thanks for the advice. Yah he’s a very nice guy and I am glad about that but I feel rushed. I feel bad that I feel this way because he is so nice but it’s annoying me now. The vibe I’m giving out is I’m nice and I attract nice guys. Btw this guy isn’t a stalker. Let’s stick to the original question please.

Do you think your knowledge of his previous gf’s reaction has somehow made these things stick out more then normal?

I just think I should mention the he isn’t creepy or anything like that it’s just really likes me I guess. I think he falls hard fast. I’m trying to drop hits to lay off but I don’t think he’s catching them.

That would annoy me to death. Personally I don’t care for the “baby” thing either, it just sounds odd to me. He seems like a sweety, but needs to calm down some. Then again if he had to have some sort of problem that’s a pretty good problem to have. I would stay the course but ask him to tone it down a little bit.

@bagardbilla yes perhaps. It definitely confirmed it for me because I was already thinking it

@ mrswho your absolutly right! Also I’m glad it would annoy you and that I’m not the only one. My sister (who has opposite luck with men) doesn’t agree with me.

Talk to him about it, and ask him to do it a little less, like don’t text you, and call less often? If he won’t comply to that, then maybe he’s just not right for you? It may not bother some people, but if it bothers you, that’s what matters.

i agree, you should talk to him about this. obviously, though you are probably into him, you need some room to breathe. and if he’s this bad this early in the relationship, think about what would happen later on!

have a serious discussion with him about it, and if he gets better, stay with him. if he doesn’t improve soon, i’d end it. if you wait too long, he could get way too attached and start going on one of those psycho-ex tangents.

but it’s your decision in the end

@mangeons – Spot on.

Talk to him, @missjena and tell him how this is all feeling for you and ask him to kick it down a notch.

It doesn’t matter if it bothers me (which it would in the circumstances you have described), it matters if it bothers you. Break it off now.

Since I don’t text maybe someone could enlighten me. Is it possible to send a group text, like an email. I may just be a suspicious old broad but could he be texting the same messages to a harem and using the non-specific “baby”

MissJena, we women think we are great communicators but often we talk a lot without communicating much. For some women it’s “Why doesn’t he talk to me more?” For others it’s “Why is he always calling/texting/smothering?” Whether it’s too little or too much, just tell him in a few simple words.

Yeah I think he’s putting on the pressure a bit too much. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him.

I am going to tell him how I feel very soon because I cant take it. Some girls enjoy this but I dont see how they can. My friends tell me maybe if I liked him I wouldn’t mind so much but I disagree. I do like him but if this continues I probably wont because its a turnoff for me. He calls me “his baby” at times also galileogirl so I dont think he is texting baby in a nonspecific way lol but I see where you care coming from. I hope he doesn’t take it the wrong way when I tell him. I never know how to form my words in situations like this one.

I am glad most of you agree with him being to much because I started to think it was me. Lately I have been having to break up with guys for this same reason I dont know what it is… I hope theres nothing wrong with me. Most girls would love to have this I think.

Most girls may love to have it, but if it’s not what you want, that’s all that matters.

Most girls would also love to have a Louis Vuitton handbag filled with top of the line makeup. I however would not, and that’s all that matters to me.

You’ll find love eventually. Nothing’s wrong with you. The planets simply haven’t lined up yet. Keep on living the good life and you’ll meet Mr Awesome.

As judi said, if it bothers you, it may be that his early attentions are smothering you. You may want to discuss this with him, see if he will back off to see where the relationship leads.

You probably don’t know how lucky you are to have this guy that cares so much about you. Most girls are complaining their boyfriends don’t give them enough attention, you are complaining that he’s giving you too much.

In any case, if you’re not comfortable with the relationship, there’s not much you can do about it. Whatever you do will break his heart, and it’s just a matter of time before this gets too annoying for you and you just dump him. So…better luck next time.

If you feel that way, you should tell him it’s too much too soon. Maybe he could text or call when he actually has something to say instead of several “hello” messages a day.

That would annoy the everloving F**K out of me. Blech. Clingy guys like that creep me out.

First let me say that, yes, that would annoy the heck out of me. I would’ve probably dumped him in the first week. But, I do feel sorry for him. Some ex girlfriend along the way probably told him he didn’t call enough and wasn’t attentive enough. So now he is and he is annoying. The poor guy can’t win.

It would bug me no end, also. I find I prefer guys that I see about once a week or so. In fact, my first really serious relationship was with a guy who was out of town all week and was only around on weekends. That gave me plenty of time to do what I needed and wanted to do and made his appearance very welcome.

Of course, it would be fairly easy to simply ignore frequent texting and only respond when I felt like it.

btw my gf sends me several messages per day (always waking me up with the typical “goodmorning baby, how did you sleep?” sort of message). One of the things she loves about me is that I actually answer them. I have never found them annoying, even though I can imagine some people might. I actually start worrying if she hasn’t sent anything for a couple of hours.

Having said that, I once had a gf who worked for a phone company and got unlimited free calls. And she’d call me at work and want to talk for several hours every day. My ears always got too hot and I never got any work done. That was tiring after a while.

@jack that is what she does now? Or your gf did that immediately when you first met? @essie haha your funny you sound exactly like me! Imglad I’m not alone and that I’m not overreacting.

You know my ex bf was cheating on me and a real asshole. In fact, I consider him the devil haha but it’s not that I don’t want a nice guy. I really do. I just don’t like feeling overwhelmed. @jack about not knowing how lucky I am finding a nice guy. I realize I’m lucky however I realize there’s a difference between nice and being to much. I wouldn’t mind if we were dating for many months and established our feelings first. But this is to much to fast putting him being nice aside. If I had deep feelings for him I would not mind but we just started hanging out.

well first of all things have changed (maybe it’s time you gave your sister my number after all).

My gf did this almost from the very beginning, she’s just that sort of person, like the bf you’re describing. I’ve come to realise how important relationships are, so even when this was overwhelming, I made the extra effort, even at days when the messages and calls were too much, like you describe.

Unfortunately, for reasons beyond our control, we live very far apart, and have not seen each other for over a month, and we’re not even sure if we’ll ever meet again and when. So messages and calls have been our only means of communication (and I think that even if we didn’t break up today, we may soon do so).

I must stress however that I am 36 and you are 23, right? So you want different things from life and there’s no need to get tied down yet. You should look around a bit more, try different guys, see what you like. But I have come to realise (years ago) that it doesn’t really matter so much who the other person is, but what sort of relationship you want to have with them, and what sorts of sacrifices you are willing to make. And I am at that stage in life where I value relationships more than people.

I think it is flattering, but a bit much and perhaps a warning sign that the guy is a little nutty. Anything that seems off when you first start dating someone, probably isn’t going to go away. It kind of takes away all the fun and mystery pretty quickly!

Let me emphasize it’s not in a creepy way. I don’t feel creeped out I just feel annoyed about the entire thing. I feel like he skipped the enter getting to know eachother and now we are “together”. Ugh!

Go with your gut instinct! From a distance, it does seem like he has been accurately diagnosed: controlling. Some people use controlling methods because they are insecure about themselves, and need constant reassurance. This can get old real soon. I think you are already there, my friend.

I would cut your losses and move on, before it escalates. Because, someone like that can never be reassured enough. And you will get tired of reassuring. Good luck.

if you like him then why does it bother you i know seem like he is rushing but maybe your all he can think about for now and if you mess up and open his eyes to the world out there their will be no more sweet guy. and would you presonally prefer somone who love and care about you so much or the one who treat you like dirt. maybe ull regeret it later on in life when your older and met someone who doesnt give a shit

Imbnot about forcing feelings and leading someone on. Just because I don’t like him doesn’t mean I like scum bags. I dumped him months ago and it’s not regretted. I’m not about forcing feelings but if you are more power to you.

i dnt know what was going on in you relitionship and i gave you an idea so peace tatata

@yal: Please don’t type that a third time without spell-check or a dictionary.

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