How do I get my ( friends, not really) to stop being really mean?

Act like it doesn’t bother you.

You have great insight into the fact that your friend has a character flaw.

Do not let that flaw dictate your mood or get you down. Seek other friends who are not willing to throw you under the bus to look cool.

How old are you?
If you’re young, and I assume you are, you should first talk to him/her about how you’re feeling without becoming accusatory or defensive. If that doesn’t work… hang out with new people.

I don’t know a single adult who didn’t go through something like this when they were younger. It happens, and it totally sucks. It’s important to find friends who are as good to you as you are to them.

I am 13 and my friend hangs out with a group of girls and talks about and plans horrible pranks and taking my things

If he’s willing to diss you in order to impress his girlfriend, he is definitely BFFF material. NOT!

I think you better look for a new friend. Or friends. This guy is too shallow for you.

Time to get new friends.

My friend Ashton is a girl just to tell you

The behavior of your ‘really good’ friend Ashton indicates that she isn’t really that good because of her immature, unnecessary and mean treatment of you. What she is doing isn’t cool. It’s wrong. As has already been mentioned here, find friends that have many positive qualities and ignore Ashton because she isn’t a true friend or is at least a friend that has problems that you don’t want or need in your life.

Well I can’t really Ignore ashton we have allot of classes together and it’s hard because everyone is on her side

Anymore advice anyone

If you are insistent on keeping a friendship with Ashton, you are going to have to pull her aside at some point and explain to her that her behaviors are mean and unfriendly and she needs to stop doing what she’s doing.

You need to go into this realizing also, from what you stated already, that everyone is ‘on her side’ which isn’t going to make anything any easier. Even if you do have many classes together, that doesn’t change the fact that you’re being treated unfairly and doesn’t mean you have to associate with her in all of your classes together. Best of luck to you in working through this difficult time.

School sucks, but at some point it will be over and life takes over, thank goodness. It does seem as if you need to make new friends. Maybe the “cool ones” aren’t really cool and you should give others a chance to show you they can be good, real friends.

You don’t have to ignore Ashton, you can be civil – or polite, but distance yourself as a friend. It’s hard to do, especially at your age.

My daughter went through something similar to this, because she didn’t want to hang around a certain group and a few of her friends “migrated” to the other group. My daughter stopped seeking them out, as friends, and went on to hang out with the rest of her friends. A few of the ones that she had stopped talking to, as much, have “rejoined” the group and even apologized for how they were treating the others. She’s cautious, protecting herself from any further issues, but is slowly warming up to them.

Try to talk to her, but distance yourself. I know it’s hard and believe me, we’ve all been there! You may not think we know how you are feeling, but we do.

Good luck!

The best advice has already been given, but I wanted to mention one more thing. If the pranks are getting out of hand – if they are stealing your personal belongings or you feel that your personal safety is at risk – TELL SOMEONE. Visit your school counselor, and let him or her know what is going on.

Start making fun of Ashton

The unfortunate reality of being your age is that the moment comes at least once (usually twice I find) in your school-aged lifetime when you end up having what amounts to a complete friend overhaul. You start to realize who those so called “best friends” are and that you don’t actually like them that much for the things they say/do. It’s in your best interest to try and talk to her…if you can’t get her to listen to a reasonable and rational conversation, leave her behind, be the bigger, more grown up person and make new and probably better friends.

@discover I don’t want to start a fight…but really this kid is THIRTEEN. Let’s consider that maybe that isn’t the best advice in this situation, it’s bound to make the situation worse. Kids at this age are impressionable. Think about what you’re saying.

I didn’t navigate that crap very well so I won’t even try to give advice. I will just tell you that once you get out of school you will no longer BE all the crap they label you as in school. you will have an opportunity to CHOOSE who you want to be, what kind of person you want to be, and contrary to what they try to label you as now, if you choose to be confidant, kind, witty, even beautiful, it is not being phony to just believe it and do it. It is much harder in school, but once you get out of there the whole world opens up. You meet people you have no history with and you can be whoever you want. Choose happiness, choose confidence and choose to know you have value.