I need some advice on marriage?

Sounds like you’d benefit from marriage counseling. If she won’t listen to your concerns, it’s only going to cause a rift.

Its honestly really hard because she is the same person you met in the bar. Thats why finding a spouse is not recommend at a venue like that. I think over time if this continues its going to come down to either You or the Lifestyle. Honestly its not a good place for anyone married to be. And sooner or later she will see that if she wants the marriage to work.

What’s good for the goose is good for the gander!
See if she has issues if you do the same!
If she doesn’t, put down some ground rules and then both enjoy some time away from one another.

^Don’t do that. Tit for tat never works in a relationship.

How often does she go out of town for work? Is going out socially part of her job? Don’t fixate on it.

I wonder how old each of you are. Age and maturity can play a role in how people are able to work out issues.
I married young (not quite 22) and after only 6 months of getting together. We will be celebrating our 25th anniversary this year (whoo hoo!).
I will not white wash our early days. We had some great times and some rocky times. He wanted to party and hang with friends. I was not that into that. We were committed to each other and to our marriage and with patience we worked things through.
It was hard not to blame, but we spoke about issues and tried to see each other’s side.
If your wife’s trips are infrequent, I’d think she’s just having fun with friends. If she’s going out often and out of town a lot (weekly, monthly), I’d explain how it makes you feel and ask if she can tone it down to help you feel more secure and relaxes.
I agree with asmonet, no tit for tat. That will always blow up on you.
Good luck.

Why do you feel she could easily get herself in a predicament? Is this a jealousy issue? Or truly a concern for her safety?

If it’s jealousy: You are going to have to find it within yourself to trust her. A marriage can’t function in a state of paranoia and distrust. Going to bars does not mean she’s dancing with other men…or worse. It means she still likes to party and blow off steam. If you really trust her, then put it out of your mind. If you don’t trust her, then you need to seek professional counseling to build the trust between you two. It’ll do a world of good! And maybe save your marriage.

If it’s safety: then she needs to listen to your concerns. Sit down, have a blunt but compassionate and patient conversation about how much she means to you and how much you want her to be safe. Make suggestions for how she might take extra safety precautions to allay your concerns while still have a girls’ night out. If she won’t listen, you need to talk to a marriage counselor and work on communication and openess.

Marriage isn’t easy, and if you’re both on two different wavelengths you’re going to need professional help to make it work. Good luck!