How do I get a guy to notice me that thinks I'm a total loser?

I wouldn’t ever change for a boy. You deserve someone that will like you, for you. Have you ever talked to him before?

Don’t waste your time chasing a guy that doesn’t want you. I know itsounds harsh but seriously do you really want to be with a guy who doesn’t even notice you? You can meet a guy who chases you :-)

First, realize that you may not succeed. There are lots of other guys. Think about looking elsewhere.

If you are sure you want to try, find out what his interests are. What music he likes, what clubs at school he is, what books he reads. Then study up on those things and become his friend through your shared interests.

I have talked to him once are twice and when I do talk to him he dosent care.

Ask yourself “Do I really want him for him or do I want him so that I can say to myself I’m better then the other girl he likes?”

Do you think I should tell him how I feel?

You think you got it bad..I am 46 years old,have ED,never been married,live with my father, and no girls even notice me.
At least your young and have a long time to decide whos the right one.Good rule is to just try to date and make sure its when your somewhere between 20 and 30 years to get married.That way its not too early and not too late.If you have issues like me,then you’ll have problems with relationships.A relationship expert once told me to write down 10 things to look for in a women.That way when you think you have met the right one, check the list.If most are definate then yes.

@imastarwarswhatever; Uhm, no. That’d scare him off.

Are we talking, cute popular boy, crunchy on the outside but you Hope soft in the middle? Cuz they’re usually crunchier than you think, and it’s best to go for someone a bit creamier.

Peanut butter… Mmm….

Anyway, I say be confident with your image and personality. You’re probably prettier than you think. Talk to him like it’s no big deal, and pretend that you don’t know you’re flirting.

If he doesn’t respond after a couple earnest tries, he’s probably not interested. Try to go after someone else, maybe a bit less obsessed with the popular girl.

DO you have a sense of his character? Or do you mainly like him because he’s popular, or good looking, or something like that?

It sounds to me like you may not know him all that well. You just like the way he looks. That’s not a basis for a relationship. If you do approach him, he might take advantage of you, depending on what he’s like.

Better to stick to your school work, work hard, participate in activities, and get to know people around you. Someone who like you will turn up. Popularity is not all it’s cracked up to be. Or so I’ve been told.

Don’t tell him anything. You are in love with someone who doesn’t know your name.
If you really want a chance you have to get him to notice you first, be friendly like you would be to anyone else.

He not really popular or a loser he has a great personality he’s very nice and senseitive and a great drawer

Work on your self confidence,and the boys will notice you. Have high standards for yourself. Trust me, as soon as you become practically unattainable, boys come running.

Sounds like a catch. Also, sounds like he’s chasing something he can’t have. So, you ought to try being the roadrunner for a while, let him be the coyote. Sometimes it really is that simple, as elijah just mentioned.

Also, improving your self image can be as easy as some acne cream and a unibrow pluck when you’re in middle school. You’re only as pretty as you feel, so make yourself feel pretty :)

Boys seem to notice personality and the whole package more than the parts. Trumi’s advice is really good.

Is it a bad thing that I always stare at him in the hallways

oh @trumi, you’re advice is even motivating me!

Don’t stare at him. He isn’t an alien. Just a normal person.

How can I tell he likes me sertain moves talking to me

Pardon?

@haight you’re making me blush!

How do I knowhe likes me

Easiest way to tell is if he teases you. Usually, the more a guy makes fun of you the bigger the crush. That is if he’s joking, not if he’s being hurtful. But you can usually tell the difference. Also, don’t confuse shyness with indifference. Some guys seem uninterested when they’re actually too scared to say something stupid.

Ok thanks

Good luck!

@Imastarwars1…..this is just the beginning

If you need to try and change yourself…he isn’t worth it. Find a guy who appreciates you for who you are.

You really should watch the movie “He’s just not that into you” or read the book. I think a lot of us women need a reality check sometimes. Maybe there is someone right in front of your nose who is crazy about you, but you’re too busy chasing after some other guy who doesn’t even know you exist. I say, if it’s meant to happen it will, but if not, then move on.

Hey if you like a guy then say something. Girls have this crazy thing where they like a guy but won’t say anything to him. You know how every single girl likes guys “chasing” them? Yeah well guys like it too. I love when girls start talking to me at the bar or at a party. But I don’t wait around hoping girls will talk to me. I hit on girls all the time, and if they don’t like me I move on. I might feel hurt for like 2.5 minutes, but I don’t let my ego get in the way of meeting someone I want to meet. If you don’t talk to him he’ll never notice you. But if you do talk to him he might notice you and maybe more (wink wink).

This whole thing about him chasing you is not gonna happen if he doesn’t even notice you. Makes sense right? Don’t make changes that you’re not comfortable making. Just improve on what you KNOW you need to improve on. Everyone sort of knows where they can improve (e.g. weight loss, better style, grooming, etc.)

Gotta say @imastarwars1 love the name. Any girl that likes star wars gets bonus points with me. Be yourself. Another guy will come along, and you’ll forget about the guy that wasn’t into you.

Flip the script. Do you think a guy that you find unattractive could make a few changes and tickle your fancy?

Didn’t think so. Be yourself, some guy out there will love you for who you naturally are. I might just take a while to find him. But it will be worth the wait.

Stab him. He’ll notice.

You should never try to change for someone so that that person would like you. That’s just wrong, be yourself and then the right person will just come along.

@bodyhead I want to say that’s inappropriate advice for a young teenager…but i’m too busy laughing!

Ah, but what implement should she stab him with? A pencil? A used syringe? Sheep shears?

@daloon my vote goes out for Sheep shears, no one would expect that!

I’d notice no matter what she stabbed me with.

bump into to him make it seem like an accident, express you like what he likes, be descriptive, blush, we like that stuff

If you didn’t want to actually harm him, you could throw up on him.

Don’t change for him. Just be yourself. If he really was to like you he has to like you for you. If you do want to change anything about yourself make sure that change is for you, because you want to make that change for the better.

Don’t ever change yourself for no one. If they don’t like you for who you are, they do NOT deserve you. Simple as that.