Help! I am falling for my ex boyfriend of 6 years friend...he is amazing...I don't know how these things work...am I allowed to date him ever? How long should I wait?

Why did you break up in the first place?

I realized he was the wrong person for me even though he is good guy…it’s only been three months and i am not ready for a relationship, but i am kinda lost on what to do

If he wasn’t the right person for you then, what makes him right for you these (very short) three months later?

Did you feel your timing was off the first time around? Does it now seem you’re both on the same path?

Who besides you can tell you if you should ever date him again?

If this were my situation, I’d contemplate why it didn’t work the first time around and notice if these factors are still present, or if things have truly changed.

For example: He wanted to get married and settle down, but you were in school and still would rather focus on studying and friends, not marriage and taxes.

no i mean that i broke up with him for actually those reasons you were you just said…i am in school and he wants to start a life, but three months later I like a mutual friend of ours and i know he is not over me yet…i am lost

You say your lost on what to do, and that he’s a great guy. Is he wanting to take it to the next level? Like moving in? Or marriage?

oh.

Ahhh…well, if you haven’t changed and he hasn’t changed, it’d be best to be straightforward and honest.

Tell him you like him as a friend and that the timing for you is off. You’d like to swim the sea of fish for a while, not be tied down.

OK, the correct wording of this question is:

I am falling for my ex-boyfriend’s friend. Can I date him ever?

The answer is, it depends on how complicated you’d like your life to be and whether you an your ex are still “friends”. If you don’t want things to be complicated, then the answer is “no”, and if you and your ex are still “friends”, the answer is “no”.

haha yes that is the way to word it :)

@Les- Exactly!

to all of it

ya i am not sure what to do. I really like the guy, he and my ex don’t hang out or talk but they run in the same group of friends, and i don’t want a relationship but i could see myself with this guy down the road at some point. argh sexual politics!

go for it, you only live once. he might be the one.

stop dating and get married. romance and sex is for married lovers. if you cannot commit, then he is not “the one.”

if he is the one, you’ll know it right away and he will too. it’s not infatuation. love is “knowing” what love is. once you know what love really is, you and your mate are probably ready to stop dating and leave the romance and sex for marriage.

Horny?