Would you ever date an ex's friend? What are the rules?

Would your friend ever date your ex?

Probably not. Because I have a rule of not maintaining friendships with ex boyfriends, and by dating one of their friends, I would inevitably have to be in the same room with the ex again. While I would have no problem being around the ex, it would be incredibly uncomfortable to have my current boyfriend (the ex’s friend) there with me. Creepy creepers. My life is complicated enough as it is. I don’t need to exacerbate the insanity.

Factors contributing to that decision: time since they broke up, intensity of their relationship, relationship status of your friend, and your friend’s feelings on the subject. I dated my best friend’s ex the summer before my junior year because they had dated in seventh grade, it was a silly relationship, and my best friend had moved on and didn’t care.

i was in a LONG term relationship with this guy (only broken up three months), but i like a mutual friend and he likes me. I don’t want a relationship right now, but I could see down the road this guy being very right for me. I don’t know ediquette about this sort of thing.

Oh shit, I read that as “a friend’s ex.” Hmm, ex’s friend is a little different… I would let your ex know, as consideration of his feelings, so he doesn’t find out from someone random, but don’t let him stop you from dating someone that you think could be really right for you. How good of friends are they? If they are really good friends, or best friends, you might want to tread lightly, but if they only kinda know each other, you’re golden. Guys are also a lot more relaxed about that kind of thing than girls are.

they have been aquaintances for a long time, but my ex’s friend doesn’t consider him a best friend or even a really good friend. The only one who stands to get hurt is my ex, which makes me feel bad cause i know he still loves me. My best friend doesn’t agree with it either, so i am kinda confused

I wouldn’t. Too much garbage.

All things being equal, it would be best to avoid this. If, however, you think this guy could be really important to you and he is only an acquaintance of your ex, then go ahead. Just be aware of potential fallout.

I’m married to my ex’s ex-best friend. But, I only dated the guy for a short period, it was a messy relationship but it didn’t work out. I had previously been with the friend (my now husband)
It wasn’t too awkward for me, I didn’t know the guy I dated for that long. But, he’s now dating my now husband’s exgirlfriend. I imagine it would have been more awkward if we were all still friends, but he and his friend had a falling out before his ex and ex friend started dating.
Gosh, this sounds messy. It’s really not as bad as it sounds. We’re all happy with how things turned out, that’s all that matters haha

@casheroo
I am engaged to my ex’s ex best friend! haha
I dated her for a year and a half and now I’m set to marry her ex best friend in August
She’s not invited to the wedding…
lol
and for me…its way worse than it sounds

It’s your ex. What do you care? If you and your ex’s friend are getting together, and you hit it off, it your date going to be loyal to you, or to the ex? The ex has nothing to say about it. What’s the big deal?

I had a relationship with one of my ex’s best friends. It was fine. Sometimes my ex would show up, but that was no big deal. Sometimes she want ex-sex, though I don’t really understand why. Once the three of us went on a camping trip together.

Even if you have a bad relationship with your ex, it seems to me that your new partner would not bring the ex around, or make it difficult for you. Honestly, I don’t see why this is even a question.

thanks so much! :)

dont drink
dont have sex
dont say i’ll be right back

There are some I’ve liked, but in all cases it was too complicated.

I would, if the two of them did not have anything to do with each other anymore (and lived far away). But it would be too weird if they were still friends, even casually.