Does my ex still want to be with me?

i was goin to answr this q but then i was like idk, idc b/c it was just too hard 2 understand why ppl ramble so long sometimes and say contradictory things back & forth like a crazy person when they shuld do what they alreddy know whats right lol—l-l-l-l-l—l-ll-l-l.

@nikkiiicee, it would be a good idea to try to format your question so that it’s easier for readers to understand. For example, use complete sentences and proper syntax.

By the way, paragraphs are your friend.

Move on. It’s not worth all you just wrote.

From what I can extract from this (really, this is painful to read – please use real sentences?) he treats you like crap, he doesn’t want to be with you, and all of your friends and family don’t like him. Get away from this guy as soon as you can.

Welcome to the collectiove. Please, please, please take the time to read the Fluther Guidelines, especially the section on asking good questions.

One Fluther convention is that the collective does not use text speak.

OK, on to your question. You have your answer from him, you just don’t like what it is. There is no reason to be confused. He does not want to be together. In your own words:

“but he doesnt want to”
“when your broken up your broken up it happend for a reason”
“my parents hate him my frnds dont like him either”
“he hurt me soo much emotionally”
“hes tlkn to this one girl now and always hanging out with her”
“imean he choose her with out even knowing it”
“he choose to do whatever that night to find out he was hanging out with that girl”
“he txtd me saying dont talk to him to no more”

You ignore all of that evidence and cling to any little crumb you can wring out of him.

He’s just not that into you, but you won’t let go.

Move on.

I agree with loser, sounds like he’s playing games and being an ass, nobody’s worth that! There’s someone out there for you that will treat you good.

@Marina I couldn’t have said it better myself

marina: Yeah i guess you are right, i shuld just move on not worth it anymore.

Dump him and move on. Maybe you should listen to your friends and family who hate him. No matter how much it may not seem so, they don’t hate him just because you like him, if they dislike him the probably have a good reason.

Listen to Marina and move on, and listen to Rob and Peyton and be a bit more clear in stating your question – you’ll get better results that way.

if he doesnt want to be with me then he sould just tell me straight up and not lead me on and your right forest geek he is playing those stupid little games but how can i let him go if he randomly would text me saying stupid shit to me that would make me think theres a chance. Becuase if i dont text him he will evenutally text me so its really hard.

My ex and I went out from November 3rd, 2007 until a few months ago, but we have been talking on and off. He says he still loves me but that he doesn’t want to. I don’t know what that’s supposed to mean, but I love him so much and I’ve gone against all my morals and what I believed—like, when you’re broken up, you’re broken up; it happened for a reason…but with him it’s just different.

My parents hate him; my friends don’t like him either. But I don’t care what they think anymore. But he hurt me so much emotionally. He’s talking to this one girl now and always hanging out with her, and he told his teacher that he can’t choose between me and her. And when he told me that, I was like, “Are you serious…”

But, ehh, it’s…whatever. I mean, he chose her without even knowing it. I told him I was going to this club. I told him what it was called and where it was located because I wanted him to go. But he chose to do whatever that night…[only for me] to find out he was hanging out with that girl. He got mad at me for going, but I told him to come, but he chose to be with her that night!

He texted me saying not to talk to him anymore and I didn’t know what I did wrong. It’s just so confusing because one minute he basically says he wants to be with me and the next he’s mad at me for a reason I don’t know…

So, what should I do? Should I stick around and try for him still or just leave and move on…?

I feel better now.

omfg niki…

@johnpowell why do you say that?

Read your post (or @nikipedia‘s translation) to yourself again, @nikkiiicee, and imagine that it was your BFF in the world, who you want to be happy more than anything, telling you what you’ve told us.

You’d tell her to tell this punk to make like Michael Jackson and beat it, wouldn’t you?

Well, you need to be that BFF for yourself. Tell this trifling so-and-so to get lost. Dump his number. Dump all the messages from him you saved in your phone… and the pictures and his special ringtone and all of it. DELETE him.

Clean slate. CLEAN SLATE. It’s OK, you’ll meet someone new and now you have a better idea for when some joker is playing you – and you’ll stay away from it. You don’t need this crap. Good luck.

@aprilsimnel, you sound like all my friends right now, so yeah from hearing your response i think i will just forget about this guy and move on. thanks.

@johnpowell, never mind ignore that.

I know it’s not part of the topic at all, but why do you spell “shuld” like that? It’s not faster…

Dump this zero and get yourself a hero, girl! There’s a person out there who would love to make you the most precious gem in his life. Find them. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t know what he wants.

Sounds to me like you don’t feel all that good about yourself. If you had more confidence, you wouldn’t let this guy play you like this. He’s getting off on having more than one girl interested in him. He might even be making fun of you when you’re not around—bragging about how hung up you are on him.

The problem is that when you don’t feel so good about yourself, it’s hard to cut the ties to this guy, like everyone is telling you. You probably are afraid to move on; afraid there won’t be anyone else; afraid of being lonely; afraid that your friends will not like you as much because you chose to be with him.

Well your family and your friends see that he treats you like dirt. They don’t understand why you stick with him. Is this some kind of rebellion? Are you trying to say that you have to be you, and they don’t understand? Are you being the hero of your own life?

Now, because of the way you write, you sound pretty young, and even if you’re not young, kind of naive. I remember when I had my first, really serious relationship, and I got dumped, it took me years to get over it. I wanted her back for so long. And she never told me true, that it was over.

Later on, she told me that she didn’t want to hurt my feelings, and she wanted to make it easier for me. Well, she did exactly the wrong thing. When you break up, you have to be serious. No going back and forth and sending confused signals.

The kind interpretation of your friend’s behavior is that he is like my first love: he doesn’t want to hurt you. Thus, he can’t say it to your straight that he doesn’t want you any more.

The unkind explanation is that he’s just a player and he’s dickin’ you around. Maybe so he can get some pussy or something when he feels like it.

Now, we all know it’s over. We know he’s not going to tell you it’s over. So that leaves you. You have to tell yourself it’s over, and that is not an easy thing to do. Well, here’s the deal—you can have your pain drag out over a long time, or you can cut it short by exercising your power and your will. Which will you choose?

u shud lrn 2 rite

If not, then u shud beg this guy 2 cum bak, cos his de only 1 who’d eva d8 sum1 like u