Friend got cheated on - how can I help her?

Is she staying with him/her? Just keep being there for her. Let her actions tell you what she needs. Reassure her that it is not a reflection on her as a person. That she is as sound and good as she was. He wandered of his own accord and that was wrong.

This is, and I don’t mean to be crass because in some instances there are other circumstances, assuming there isn’t something she should work on. Things like being her own person in a relationship. Not defining herself by who she is with etc,. Just make her realize she has value no matter what his/her actions were.

Just remember, they always shoot the messenger. They could get back together, and your friend could hold your words against you.

Nope, there is nothing you can say to make her feel better. It will happen in time. Just be sympathetic. Listen. Be there.

I’m glad to see you are following the rules regarding relationship questions, as stated in the TOS

Listening is the best gift you can give.

take her mind off of it. i mean the best thing for her is to get out and not think about it for awhile.

I have a friend going through the same thing, but the best thing to do is let that person talk to you… even when she pauses wait for her to ask you a direct question or something you know she wants a response to. Sometimes all that person needs is to vent and they don’t want the whole “I’m sorry,” “you deserve better,” or whatever else good friends say to try and make them happy. Ask her to go out and do something, something that has no trail back to that guy. Have a girls night out!!!

I think its good for her to grieve for a little while. Not too long though, you don’t want her falling into a deep depression or end up hating men for the rest of her life. I think you should just hang out with her and try not to leave her alone for too long. Make her feel pretty, sometimes these cheating incidents can take toll on our self esteem. She’ll be fine after a while, just show her your support by being there as a friend.

Only time heals the wounds.

My own opinion is that there are so many much more horrible things that one human can do to another, that cheating doesn’t even qualify as a sin. I really wish that my ex wife had simply cheated on me and not done everything else she did.

Your friend will eventually get to put everything into perspective. Right now her biggest problem is the rejection of being cheated on, feeling insulted by her guy preferring that other girl. It will all be ok once she meets someone new that appreciates her and respects her.

I didn’t read all the responses so I don’t know what has been said. I’m sure several people will disagree with me but this is just how I feel. They are DATING, not MARRIED. To me, dating means that you like one another a lot and you could see yourselves together in the future. You may even be working towards this, but until there is a serious committment, “cheating” should be expected. I do feel that people should value one another and be sensitive to people’s feelings but face it, we’re human and it happens. If they really like each other and other than this incident, you feel they’re right for each other, encourage them to work through it and come to a clear understanding of the relationship.

I think that there is nothing other than being there with her, comforting her when need be or you can always try getting her to do stuff she enjoys (might take her mind off him).

Note: Cliches help :P

Whatever you do, don’t treat her like she’s stupid.